Question:
Somebody posted a question on the Nosey Neighbor Topic at Discussionpool about Marriage status (I'm single)
And It got me wondering about the couples/singles on both sites...
In the Old days Our Parents would frown on anybody Cohabiting even close neighbors
Say things like...Why aren't they married? and a Baby made things a 100 times worse
Now it's no big deal
To my question
Married ?(Treat this as is you were still single)
Say you had a good friend and you wanted to settle down together and had anUnplanned<--- child on the way <--- Like the twist in the tail?
and you are both Financially solvent

Would you...

Choices:
Get married ?(full church service)
Get married ?(civil wedding)
Remain as you are? (Good friends/ partners) Keep baby
As above but give baby away(or some other arrangement)

 

This message has been edited. Last edited by: bedstor,

I guess this question confuses me a bit.

If this person and I were already planning on getting together, how was this intended to happen? I can't say that a child would have much bearing (if you will excuse the pun) on the matter.

If we were planning on marrying before, I would marry now. If I were planning in living with my man before, I'd presumably plan on living with my man with the child.

For myself personally, marriage is the way I would go (and since I did, that must seem obvious! )

I got married 63 years ago. At that time anything else was unthinkable. Today, I think I would still get married. Why not? There are still advantages, both taxwise and socially, and there are still stgmas attached both for the child and the partners to the 'living in sin' aspect.

I wouldn't get into this predicament. I lived with someone before I got married, and the spark left soon after we moved in. If I had gotten pregnant I probably would have married in a church wedding. Then I moved back to my parents house to facilitate my going back to school. And that made all the difference. Thank God that I made the choice then.

Now I'd never live with someone outside of marriage. It would not be at all beneficial to me, and it would not be morally acceptable to my faith.

Commitment to a marriage is probably the most important thing to a lasting relationship, and if you fight with a live-in, you can bail. That stinks for women all the way around. When you're single, you view marriage as an impossible thing. When you're on the other side of marriage, it seems like no big deal. What use is freedom anyway?

Either you're happy or you're not, and your partner is not supposed to be everything and anything, because you'll end up disappointed.

Civil wedding.

We're all different snowflakes so whatever works in a relationship should be what the said couple should do. However, if there is a child to come from this relationship, IMO there should be some real sort of commitment -- for the sake of the child.