About 200 of my wedding invitations are going out to work people. Would it be completely tacky if I handed out these invitations at work and saved the $75 it would cost to mail them? I wouldn't have to worry about offending anyone (because of not be invited), because everyone I work with is getting an invitation. ****************************************************************8 04-06-04, 01:12 PM Lydia That's a tough one Jenni...on a "tacky scale" of 1 - 10, I think I'd give it about a 7. I wouldn't find it overly tacky, just enough to wonder about it. If you are hand delivering them, I certainly hope that on your RSVP card/envelopes, you ARE including postage. If you expect them to hand deliver these all back to you, or to have to put a stamp on the envelope, then I'd give it a tackiness rating of a full 10!!
we hand delivered as many of our invitations as possible. if we offended anyone, tough on them.
remember, its YOUR wedding, not theirs. if they dont like it, they can do their own invitations the way they like it.
you should not be forced to spend money you dont have to just to avoid looking 'tacky' to some people.
of course, if you are worried about it at all, spend the $75. but then there will be people who will wonder why you didnt just hand them an invite. you cant please everyone. Wink]
and on a side note, you can email my invite if you want. Big Grin
04-06-04, 04:31 PM Georgia85 Well Miss Emily has long since been dead and buried but for fun I just reviewed Emily Post's book on Etiquette and you will be pleased to know that Chapter 11, entitled "Invitations, Acceptances and Regrets" makes absolutly no mention of mailing an invitation. It does, however, give exact specifications on addressing the outer envelope. So I guess as long as you address the envelope properly you can hand deliver all you like Wink
The invitation to the ceremony should always request “the honour” of your “presence,” and never the “pleasure” of your “company.” (Honour is spelled in the old-fashioned way, with a “u” instead of “honor.”) Geesh, she was an old fuddy duddy wasn't she Roll Eyes
P.S. It is also perfectly acceptable to hand write invitations if the wedding is to be small.
04-06-04, 04:50 PM gojenni714 Well, that helps a lot. I wasn't particularly looking forward to shelling out all that money when I see these people day in and day out. Most of them would probably ask me why I didn't just give it to them. Besides, why all the fuss to be 'prim and proper' when these are your closest friends. They'll be the people you'll be dancing and drinking the night away with. Who cares about a silly stamp??? Come on. Big Grin
And Lynda, I was going to hand deliver yours, but if you insist.....Wink Big Grin hehehe
04-06-04, 05:50 PM mattlynda well heck. if you want to come all the way to alberta, im all for that. Big Grin
04-06-04, 08:44 PM MrsS Actually, hand delivery is not at all tacky. Quite the contrary, it was until fairly recently in the grand scheme of things, the expected thing to do....a wedding invitation was once either delivered by hand during a visit or delivered by a footman (or junior family member pressed into service)...the only reason this ceased to be customary is that people started moving too far from home for it to be practical. I see no reason at all why you should not present the invitations in person.
04-08-04, 06:22 AM Walks On Water Personally, I would be "Honoured" if I was handed an invitation by one of the familly members especially if it was the bride or the groom.
Weddings are for profit, and not the profit of the couple. Save where you can, even if Ms. Post doesn't like it.
After two marriages, I still can't figure out why a young couple starting out life together needs to spend all that money. Yes, a nice service and reception but keep it moderate.
May be that's why I had 2 wives. Hummmmm
04-08-04, 06:34 AM clarebear I don't find it tacky at all. I think it is personal and sweet. (it will come across that way too) I don't think you should hand them out like you would playing cards. Be sure to tell each person you give one to how much you would love to have them there. Smile
P.S. You can hand deliver mine! Big Grin
04-08-04, 08:21 AM Rakuchild Tacky is taking one beautifully engraved wedding invitation to work and pinning it up on the general info bulletin board.
Tacky is also inviting people from work that you don't speak to. I've had an invite left on my desk when I was out of the room by a co-worker who refuses to speak to me and has said to others she hates me.
But if a friend hands me an invitation, I feel that's warm and welcoming whether it's to a wedding or a party or a shower.
04-08-04, 04:12 PM gojenni714 I don't know if you're still on the list since I found out you were a Wings fan clare. I'll have to think about that....Big Grin hehehe
04-08-04, 04:42 PM clarebear I promise I won't wear my jersey to the wedding! Now would it be tacky to wear it to the reception? Confused
GO WINGS!!! Big Grin
04-08-04, 04:57 PM gojenni714 I'd only let you wear a jersey to my reception if it was an Avs jersey. RED WINGS SUCK!!!!!!
04-08-04, 05:34 PM clarebear LOL!
04-09-04, 10:57 AM gizmogram Jenni I don't think it's tacky at all to hand-deliver invitations to people that you see every day, especially since they'll probably hand-deliver their RSVP to your desk.
01-24-05, 02:28 PM butter my daughter handed out 95% of her invites, when money is tight you have to cut corners.
01-24-05, 05:40 PM DvdGStwrt No it is not at all tacky, and it is not even tacky to not self stamp the return envelope.
The first because it used to be that you invited those people who lived near you to the wedding - because nobody traveled far from home. Today mass mailing invitations is acceptable due to distance.
Personally delivering an invitation also makes the receiver feel special. There is something cold and impersonal about being mailed an invitation especially if this is from somebody you see each and every work day.
The later because everyone knows that the newlyweds are not "rich" and are in the process of setting up housekeeping which is well known to be expensive. Thus one of the parents usually pays for the wedding, and the bride's maid organizes and pays for the bridal shower and the Best man's duty is to make certain that the soon to be husband gets one last good drunk in paid for by the Best freinds who bemoan the loss of yet another bachelor.
Also we assume that hand delivering a invitation comes with the unspoken desire for a hand deliver of reply as well.
Unless you are marrying Donald Trump or Bill Gates, then I have to ask "Just why can't you cough up the postage?"
Wink
01-26-05, 03:42 PM aleia Not to be redundant, but no - I don't think it's tacky either.
06-23-05, 01:32 AM dphelps Handing out your wedding invitations with the intent to save on postage makes this tackier than tacky. Not including a stamp for the RSVP is not tacky- it is wrong.
This is your wedding. Essentially- an event that you are planning- for you. Guests come to enjoy the time with you- all of which will present you with gifts. Weddings are the pinnacle of your friends', family, etc. gift giving graciousness.
If you are inviting all of your co-workers (either you are extremely close to all of them or you feel obligated)- they realize they're going to have to cough up usually $50-100 for a gift. Hand delivering the invite coupled with no stamps is like a slap in the face.
Don't do it!
06-23-05, 05:39 PM Sherasi Jenni, how did you handle this? (Now that your wedding is done and over Big Grin)
06-27-05, 03:04 PM gojenni714 Would this be completely tacky??? Why, hello. I don't even know why I stopped in here to be honst. But here I am and I found this post!
Well, yes I ended up hand delievering them and not one single person complained. In fact the majority of them said that they appreciated the delivery.
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