Question:
Do you think people can have only one "true love?" Do people who believe in true love believe the same feeling can be had with more than one person?

Poll for the first question

Choices:
Yes
No
Eh, don't know

 

I believe that what is true at the time for you- is your truth. Nobody can take that feeling away. Sometimes things in life change and feelings can change also. This allows you to fall out of love with one person and in love with another. Many times they have the one quality your previous lover had but lack in all the other areas. This usually happens when you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and you are fighting. People often get tunnel vision and look for someone to fill the one thing that lacks in the relationship while ignoring the other attributes of that person. Now just because you fall out of love with someone doesn't mean that that true love didn't exist during the time. As for truly being in love with 2 people at the same time, I don't think that is possible. I think you can love two people yet the love isn't whole. You only love certain parts. You also can love people in different ways. I love many people in many different ways. In a relationship, the key is finding someone you love in most all ways. (Or at least have the qualities that are most important to you) Have you ever heard someone say if they could blend 2 people together and make them one- they would be just perfect! You can have a love for 2 people at the same time but it will never fulfill all of your needs. Each person has different qualities which make you love them. Neither of them have ALL of the right qualities that make them "the one". When you find "the one", you will have found someone who fills the void inside you and you won't have to look elsewhere for supplements. True love lasts as long as both people continue to fulfill the needs of one another. If this can happen, happily ever after will follow. If this cannot happen, then the love changes. This allows you to find another "true" love who can fulfill your needs. IMO

It has been my great good fortune to have loved deeply and been loved by several truly wonderful men... All the love in the world does not ensure compatibility but that does not reduce the depth of the feeling.

Yeah, that's a good thing to remember, MrsS.

Good response, Clare. So you're differentiating between "true love" and "the one" though, right?

Your true love will be the one as long as they continue to fulfill your needs. There is no such thing as unconditional love. (Except of course for unconditional parental love) There are conditions in forever. Will you love me forever no matter what? Till death do us part? Unconditionally? Well... I will love you forever if you are good to me, have sex with me, allow me to grow, support me, take care of me, be my friend, don't nag me all the time, accept my family, don't spend too much money, lose/gain weight etc... There are always conditions. Having your needs fulfilled is the feeling of having true love. Even though this can go away, it was true love while they were the right one for you. The key is to find someone who can fulfill all of your needs while you fulfill theirs. The reality of life is that some people change. Some people make new conditions that weren't in the love deal. Some break the deals they had. Some people require more to fulfill them. Every hear people argue about how one person in the relationship has changed? "You aren't the man/woman I married!!" "I didn't change- you did!" Remember,what is true today may not be true tomorrow. Some people settle and stay in relationships they aren't happy in. While all of their needs aren't fulfilled, the good outweighs the bad. Some stay out of convenience or obligation. Some stay out of fear. People who grow together will have found their true love. People who grow apart will never be fulfilled.

I believe people can have more than one true love.