Do you care where your body ends up after you die? If you do, can you give an explaination as to why you feel that way? Isn't it more like trash now since nobody's in there?
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07-21-04, 11:34 PM
DvdGStwrt
My will is quite clear and so too is my wallet, my body is to be hacked up and divided, any usable parts are to be given to whom ever needs them. If science wants anything for study, grab while the grabbings good.

What's left is to be incinerated, the ashes and ground up bone material is to be either spread in the garden, thrown into the compost heap or, if the survivors want a little more dignity, they can spread my remains to the four winds at any location they choose.

Connected to that there is to not be a Funeral - Instead I want a party, a nice party, a party with dance music, laughter and fun.

All of this is to not exceed my $5000.00 limit (That means travel expenses to the place where they spread the ashes, crematorium expenses and the party), the rest of the insurance is to be spent paying off bills and getting the survivors something nice. salt shakers, pot holders, small things. Except for my partner in life who is to get what ever remains and get something a bit nicer than salt shakers.

I will not tolerate a big expensive funeral, preservation, casket, etc - spend the money on the living.

David

07-21-04, 11:42 PM
jusork
Wow, that definitely sounds like a good plan. I like the idea of a party. Good thinkin.

07-22-04, 07:36 AM
shelster
Oh, I don't care what happens to my body. My family knows to donate whatever is usable as far as organs. I haven't really decided between creamation or full burial, just cause I am not sure which is cheaper. I would like to be buried (either my ashes or casket) where my grandparents are buried, for sentimental reasons. But, I won't really care by then will I?

I do want a funeral, just because they have helped me deal with sadness in the past. But maybe my friends and family would rather party? Who knows?

07-22-04, 12:24 PM
Georgia85
I'll be entombed in a mausoleum, hopefully close to the one my great grandmother is in. I have no desire to be cremated, interred, or have my body sent off to a medical college. I intend to leave this world with everything I had coming into it.

07-22-04, 02:11 PM
Ewood27
Yes, from your own point of view the remains are just an empty shell. You have either gone on to something much better or you are now nothing. Either way, you have no further interest in the mortal flesh.

However, would you deny your loved ones their chance to mourn your passing, and to have a focus for their mourning? It's selfish to disregard their feelings.

I've left things so that my family can keep my ashes in one place if they want, and have them scattered when they've had enough of me. I happen to believe in God. Once they've sent my soul to Him, what they do with my body is up to them, for their benefit, not mine.

Incidentally, the "one place" already contains the urn of my wife's ashes. I have put fresh flowers out just today. It's been four years, and I find great comfort in remembering and having a focus point.

07-22-04, 02:39 PM
juanruiz
Heck, I once wrote a poem about it:


My family had a sense of humor
I never gave them credit for.
And so when the cigarettes
took me down,
they had me stuffed.
Now I stand where the
potted palm used to be.

It must be winter.
I'm wearing my block M
hockey jersey and tan Levis.
Last summer it was my orange swim suit
and a Bach t-shirt.

I always thought the
brandy snifter was a nice touch,
course they super glued it to my hand.
And I imagine, that if I were alive,
the stick that holds me up
would be quite a distraction.

Death is good,
if weren't for O'Reilly every night,
and Days of Our Lives every afternoon.
You'd have thought they'd knock
Marlena off by now.

Hey guys! Here comes the cockateel.
Get her off me, I'm tired of being
a guano repository.

07-22-04, 06:51 PM
honilov
I really don't care what my family do with my body. Why?...because I won't know it.

It's not like I'm gonna raise up and say wait, you can't do that!!!

07-23-04, 02:42 AM
Jelp01
I'm with Honilov. I won't be around to know what they did with me. I am a registered organ donor, though. So I can die in peace knowing I could possibly save a life somewhere along the road.

07-23-04, 03:18 AM
Jenny Roberts
We have a family grave which contains my mum and dad and my younger sister who died aged 10 ( In 1975) It brings me great comfort to have a few minutes by myself to visit the grave and put flowers on for birthdays and anniversaries etc.
I personally don't care what happens to me when I go. But I'm sure my family will choose the best way for them to remember me by.

07-23-04, 12:17 PM
gizmogram
I've made myself available for whatever parts can be used to help someone else after I'm gone. I don't think I'll much care at that point.

07-24-04, 01:16 PM
kittypal
I also want to have my organs donated...whatever is left will be cremated and put in a little tomb next to my mom & dad.

07-24-04, 05:12 PM
Kelleygirl
Take anything that anyone can use and cremate the rest and put me in an urn sitting at my favorite bar, Murphy's.
And if anyone tries to have a viewing, I'll come back and get 'em; IMHO, that's a barbaric tradition.

07-24-04, 06:59 PM
frankvan
Unlike the rest of you youngsters, I don't have a whole lot of time to think about it. And I realize also that it is not something that one does for one's own satisfaction (?). Because my wife and some of my family favorites are all devout Catholics who would be horrified to discover that the senior member of the clan was a lifelong agnostic/atheist, and thus surely destined for an unthinkable afterlife - I have arranged to be buried in a military funeral in a veteran's cemetery. Perhaps no one will even notice the absence of religious ritual.

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I very much care what's done with my body!
I guess 'cuz it's been my home for so long. And I hope, somehow, to know a bit about what's going on with my family afterwards.

I am listed as an organ donor on my driver's license, and my family knows what I want, too. After all, I'll be through with 'em - let them help someone else.
I don't know yet that I could dedicate my entire body to science, but I'm not dead yet, and could reconsider.

I can't bring myself to agree to cremation (unless my body is already destroyed by fire). My husband and I have already had our lots for 32 years. They are at a cemetery where many of our relatives are buried. We have paid for our caskets and vaults already.
If I could have what I really want, I'd have a big family crypt and be entombed there. But $$ is an object, and we the living are still using it to survive.
If I could dictate the kind of funeral I want, $$ being no object, I'd have one like you see in films about New Orleans. I'd have sad music played on the way to the cemetery and lots of crying mourners (I've already told my family to hold in their glee for a few minutes ). And on the way back, I'd have happy music, jazz and stuff played, and would hope that my survivors would focus on happy memories (I swear there are some).

I do, however, want my survivors to bawl their eyes out when I die. Shed lots of tears!
And then, start to remember the happy times, the funny times, the good things I have done, and smile - a lot!

Lately, I've heard about green funerals. Here and here are some bits of information on them.
I don't know what will available to me when I die, but I've always wanted to be "sent off" naturally, and this idea really appeals to me. We shall see...