If a very young person started dating or trying to marry a really older person just to get their money/assets, should the older person's children interfere? For example if your well-to-do 90 year old parent wanted to marry a 20 year old, would you try to talk them out of it?

If I was sure that that was the young person's intentions, then I would try. Would my thoughts on it really persaude the older person? And how would I know for certain that marrying for the older person's money was the case in the first place?

Jusork, with a 20-90 age difference it would be almost obvious, but legally it's right. One could only hope that their parent listens to them.

I seen a similar case but the age difference was closer. A 28 year old woman married an 83 year old man just for his money. Her young boyfriend was practically living there with them. The family tried to stop the marriage but I guess the man felt happy. When he died, the boyfriend moved complety in and soon left her for another woman. He probably broke her. The last I heard she had moved back to Mississippi.

I guess if it makes the older person happy you might as well stay out of it, but it's hard to see someone just 'use' an older person.

Marrying for money is, they say, the hardest way there is to make a buck. If the parties concerned are happy, I say leave'em be except to have the family lawyer press for a pre-nuptual agreement if there is a significant amount of money involved.

I don't know, Honi. I'm not positive if it's that unlikely to fall in love with an elderly person. There are people with elderly fetishes.

I wonder about the motives of those who would try to prevent the elderly person's foolishness. Do they want to protect their inheritance? If so, are they any better than the gold-digger? Surely an old crock should have the right to spend his/her money foolishly. Who is to judge what is allowable, or legitimate? Spending it on acquiring more goods? Leaving it invested? Donating it all to a favorite charity?

In a way, it doesn't really matter who spends the money. Just as long as they spend it close to home, for the trickle-down economic effect. Hmmm.

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Originally posted by honilov:
I guess if it makes the older person happy you might as well stay out of it, but it's hard to see someone just 'use' an older person.

Err....maybe the oldie just wants to pay once and for all, instead of hiring every other night. Sorry it is crude.
However, old bags goggling at young girls, who are just about to start their lives bugs me too. Good thing he's rich so atleast the girl gets something out of the umn, bondage. (Sorry can't call it a relationship)
Only becasue of the rule of being an 'exception' would I buy that BOTH the parties are in it for love, and not for money or lust.

Pin~Jinx / anarchist a tad cranky