I am 50 and I am falling in love with awoman that is 24years old. YES I know I have throught of all that is wrong But she has feelings for me and we don't feel the age differents.I do for see that in 20 years,but then that is tommor.When we are together I do not see anything else. I am going so very slow with this.I find that when I was 20 years old things had to happen fast and now I want this last,I am walking on sunshine,maybe this won't work, but for now we are
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07-10-03, 07:51 AM
BlueIce63
Well how can you beat walking on sunshine? There's nothing like falling in love, unfortunately it doesn't always leave our minds clear to think straight. I think you are smart to take this slow, nothing but time will tell if this relationship will remain solid. Without boring you with too many details, I thought I was in love with a man about your age when I was 22 and of course he thought he was in love with me. What I think it really was, was I was in love with the idea of an older man and he was definitely in love with the idea of a younger woman and neither of us saw it. The relationship didn't last, not because of our age difference, but something else, but looking back, the age difference would have been an obstacle, but one that could have been overcome of course, if we were truly in love and time is the answer to finding out whether this is the real thing. Enjoy the euphoria of being in love, I wish you the best, but don't forget to THINK.

07-10-03, 08:53 AM
Beth000376
Congrats Windblowing, finding love at any age is not an easy thing to do. I say grab a hold and give it all you got even if it ends up not standing the test of time for now your in for a wonderful ride enjoy it! Good Luck Beth Big Grin

07-10-03, 11:43 AM
Elexina
If you are both truly and honestly happy together and comfortable with the age difference, then there is no problem that I can see! If she were younger than twenty I might say differently, but I think she is old enough to understand a commitment like this. My only concern would be that she might not have experienced life fully, yet. But all in all, I say congratulations and best of luck!

07-10-03, 11:48 AM
Texan-In-Exile
Windblowing - Go for it! Big Grin

You never know whether any relationship is going to work, regardless of the ages, until you try.

You didn't mention if you've discussed children.
If you reach that point, a lot of people will give you reasons a kid shouldn't have an older parent. THAT'S HOGWASH!!
You never know how long a parent is going to be around, or how physically active one will be - again, regardless of age.
And older people are often more ready to be good parents. (I put 13 years between mine, and I had a totally different attitude toward motherhood with each of them!)

But for now - Carpe Diem! Big Grin
Godspeed!

07-10-03, 01:12 PM
Sherasi
Good luck to you! Probably part of the reason such a match could not last would be different life views.. things you've experienced and challenges you have met have yet to be seen and conquered by your lady love.

07-10-03, 03:21 PM
Jelp01
I'd see nothing wrong with the age difference. And taking it slow is a wise thing to do. And of course make sure you discuss some of the issues that the large difference might make (kids, etc.). I sure know how hard it can be to find love--I wasn't married till I was 41. So keep walking on that sunshine Smile. That's a walk you can't beat!!

07-10-03, 04:20 PM
samantha
I think its great and i don't think we should really look at age . I personally think an older guys is attractive in many ways and im 26. They are much more settled than the younger ones. Tho, ive not really done any dating myself but this is just my view on things. Good luck to you.

07-10-03, 06:21 PM
honilov
Hey, go for it Windblowing. Age ain't nothing but a number. Be happy now, because we don't know what tomorrow will bring. Good luck. Smile

07-11-03, 07:33 AM
Gin
Windblowing, I am so happy to see the support you have here. I too agree, go for it... Wink

Guys, he is a good guy and deserves the best life can offer. Smile

07-11-03, 03:44 PM
Georgia85
You old "cradle robber" Big Grin GO FOR IT! Love is precious and should be enjoyed with whomever you can share it with!

And ya'll....I expect you all to show me the same support when I tell you I have fallen for a guy who is 20 years younger than me! So far my largest age difference has only been 15 years! Eek

07-11-03, 06:11 PM
honilov
Georgia, you'll get the same support from me. Life and love is too precious, to make excuses.

Don't worry, be happy. Smile

07-13-03, 08:47 AM
MrsS
Three of the happiest years of my life were spent with a man who graduated from college the year I was born...the age gap was a big part of why we moved on...there were still too many things I needed to do with my life and he had already done all the college, learn to be on your own, furnish your first apartment stuff...I never regretted a minute, and we remained close friends until his death,last year.
However, I read your profile and it sounds like you are taking a second shot at some of those "Firsts" so who knows...Continue taking it slow...in my own experience, absolute candor is even more important in a relationship like this than when there is no big difference in life experience...Good luck!

07-31-03, 01:27 PM
mattlynda
age dosent really mean anything, unless you let it.
my mom is dating someone 24 years younger than her, they have been together about 4 years, and seem to be fine.

go for it, and dont let what others whisper behind your backs get in the way.

08-05-03, 06:46 PM
Vicki
You are only as old as you feel........... Don't let love pass you by......

Vicki

08-09-03, 03:45 PM
grumpybear
I say go for it! My husband is 13 years older than I am. We have had our issues about the age difference, and have heard and still do hear jokes and comments about the age difference, but I could give a **** less what others have to say about my relationship with him! I love him more than meer words can express, and he feels the same about me. Granted when we first startes talking, we didn't realize actually how old each other was. I still have my doubts on how old he actually is, and wouldn't believe him if I hadn't seen his birth certificate. (lol)
If you truly have feelings for her, I mean true feelings, and her as mutual, then don't let anything stand in your way!! Like Vicki said, 'you are as old as you feel'. Trust me on this, if you let her go, you will regrett it. Don't listen to what others say, FOLLOW YOUR HEART!! Smile



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