I have just had a monster of a responsibility dumped in my lap. As if a screw up of a marriage, a dying disabled 90 pound dog I'm keeping going, and two teenagers aren't enough for my nervous system, I have my grandma. She called me and said she just fell and broke her arm. I got there and it was a complete disaster, her right wrist. Those with a weak stomach probably couldn't even look at it. Yeah, It's that bad.
Since my good for nothing lazy mother is doing nothing but upsetting my grandma wanting to throw her in a facility, I'm not getting any help on her end. This is my mother's mother.
Does anyone know any prescription drug sites that only sell American drugs made by the major manufacturers? Drugstore.com I have used before. She gets $600 a month and lives on it. She has private paid health insurance and Medicare. I have heard that there are many sites that sell the same drugs as you get at your drugstore at a much lower price.
I also need to know how to go about finding programs that are Medicare approved (if medicare approves it, so will her insurance company) to improve her condition and enable her to live in her home as long as possible. I'm not sure how possible this is realistically going to be.
I have no idea what is out there to choose from either. After she has corrective surgery on her wrist and it heals a bit, I want her to go to a nice hospital cardiac rehab outpatient clinic. I know we can get that referral easy enough for her insurance to cover. She needs strenghtening so she doesn't fall so easily. I already tried putting her pain pills she is gulping by the ton out of her reach. It didn't work. I have a granny with bad arthritis and a broken, dislocated wrist stoned on pain pills. Not good.
I need help desperately. I'm a nurse. We ship these type of problems to social workers. I don't know where to begin. First, I would like to cost cut with more competitive priced medications through the net. Next, I need old people programs that might help her.
Wildflower, The best thing to do would be to call your local "Area Agency on Aging". This organization can help you find support and help for your grandmother.
The links I found may help you also.
Good luck to you.
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I guess that I stupidly thought my mother would do something. She isn't. I never dreamed this would fall in my lap like this. I even got disowned by my mother this time. She said she was my father's wife and that is all to me. Wow, wonderful timing to disown me for being angry at her for shoving all of the responsibility on me. I feel completely betrayed. I don't know that I can forgive this one out of her.
My mother is a spoiled, sheltered only child that married one of these helpful sort of guys. She has never really had to do anything rough in her life. She isn't stupid, but ignorant as all get out. She has a strange and what I call abusive relationship with her mother. Her mother wouldn't cut the apron strings. She criticized. I believe she deliberately kept my mother dependent because she couldn't stand the thought of losing control (granny is a control freak) of her only daughter.
We tend to learn parenting from our parents. I would never dream of treating my daughter as I have been by my mother. It's a watered down version, because my mother felt the same way. She is abusive herself and doesn't know it.
I'm supposed to step in line. I refuse. This sick cycle stops with me. I have watched this mess of a relationship between my mother and hers all my life. Even as a kid, I thought their relationship was screwed up. I would go outside and play. I stayed within where I was allowed to go. I wasn't expected to report everything. Every time my mother walked out the door, she called her mother and told her where she was going. The second she walked in, she called to tell her mother she was back. Weird!
Within the last year, I talked with my mother about this. I told her this was abuse and explained it to her why I thought so. She cried her eyes out. At 69 years old, she still thought that was just the way things were. You had to put up with abuse out of respect for your elders. She doesn't understand the difference.
I left out the part where she was passing the same old abusive pattern on me. I have one brother that can do no wrong. He looks like her and thinks like her. Lucky he is a guy! I am more like my father. She doesn't understand me or him. So, she does nothing but criticize and manipulate.
As a teen, I avoided coming home. Teens are very difficult and I'm sure I wasn't the easiest to deal with either. Get this, I actually refused to go to school because I couldn't get my hair to lay right. You should have seen the look on her face over that one. She turned pale and her jaw dropped to the floor. She didn't know what to do with me and my stupid teen hysterics. So, she just made my life hell as much as possible.
Absolutely, my mother is probably more furious with me than I am with her for not helping me with my grandma. I'm not showing respect for my elders as she thinks is my duty. She sees this in a Biblical sense as being wrong. It's her abusive cycle that I will not tolerate.
I used to handle my mother by avoiding her. I'm a bit more verbal now. I tell her exactly what I think and why. I will not be her punching bag and door mat. I know what it is she is doing, the same abusive situation that was put on her. I want no part of it. When she kept complaining about lifting a finger and got insulting towards me, I knew it was just more of the same. I'm not just furious over her not helping with my grandma. I'm furious about this abusive situation she has tried to drag me into all my life.
I want a relationship with my mother. I don't want all the nonsense. We lock horns often and don't speak, then something else happens. We don't speak again. I think that I pushed her a little too far with exactly what was on my mind. She can really dish it out, but can't take it. I don't know how to mend this relationship or if there is a way.
But, my grandma, thankfully, was admitted for her surgery that was supposed to be done outpatient. Today, she was transferred to a rehab facility. I'm thrilled about that. She needs strengthening. They are going to try to get her in shape to live independently. They have the resources needed. They even go to her home to see what is needed. I'm really happy about it. I think it will help her a lot.
http://www.4cnrs-medications.com/index.html About that online pharmacy: I have used this one with no problems. It is overseas, but the medicine is the same as we get here and is in date. There is no shipping charge, and it comes in about 7 days. Look at the bottom right for the medicines they have. No prescription is needed. This place has just about the lowest prices I could find. I believe they are better than the Canadian pharmacies that require prescriptions.
[This message was edited by Dixie on 07-19-03 at 08:08 PM.]
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