i need to know which software is best for making stragey game like disciple, age of wonder, or total war. also i need to know where to buy them.

I guess you're determined to do this game thing Wesley, it can be a great thing if you can pull it off. Here's some good-news / bad news.

Bad news - There really aren't "programs" made to develope games. There are "languages, "libraries", and several "tools".

Good news - most of them are freely available.

Most games are written in C or C++. Some people get scared of dealing with programming in these languages as they are considered "advanced." Truth is - you can teach yourself C and C++ with a reasonable amount of effort and become quite good at it. (I did) If you become proficient enough to write even a simple game in c/c++ you will have taught yourself a highly valuable skill that will serve you well for many years.

I'd suggest checking out this link
http://www.gamedev.net/reference/programming/features/davegpg/default.asp

It's from the GameDev.net site and it'll give you a better idea what you're up against. But hey - it can be done, and you'll get quite a bit of learning in while you do it.

Good luck!

thx a lot, it's great advice and that website is awesome.