I’m in trouble. I wish I weren’t.

I’m “romantically connected” to Emily. I like her a lot.

I’m extremely physically attracted to another girl, Ros. The attraction is infectious. It makes me doubt my relationship with Emily.

I struggle. I’m trying to further my relationship with Emily in hopes that I can make this other attraction go away, but it’s not working so far.

I want to keep both people in my lives. This I know. I would like Emily to be my girlfriend, but this attraction grows every time I see Ros.

I’m stuck. I need help.

Freshman year isn’t starting too well.

Advice won't solve my problems for me, I realize. But at this point, it would sure help.

I fail to see the problem, unless the small fact that you will have to make a choice is the problem....

LOL

Actually there is a rule of thumb. When you are single (without no romantic ties) you are hard press to find anybody to engage your attractions - When you are romantically engaged then you find a whole world of attractive people.

This rule of thumb applies to everyone, and everyone will sooner of later have to do some serious consideration and decide if they are or are not happy with what they have and if the pursuit of new friends are worth all of the aggravation and times of trouble and of course the risk that you may end up with none.

What I'm interested in knowing is just how are you going about furthering that romantic relationship with Emily and why it isn't working. Perhaps you and Emily need to sit down and have a heart to heart, find out what you both are seeking in this relationship, find out if you both see yourselves together next year. Then make your choices.

David

It sounds like you don't know who you want to be involved with. I don't think you are ready to get serious about anyone yet. You need to have fun, but don't lead anyone on under false pretenses. Be open and let Emily know where you're coming from, and then it's up to her to keep seeing you or kick you to the curb.

Aww, you are so young still. Making decisions like that is so hard. Do you really have to make one? You like both girls, do you have to be tied down to one? Maybe you should just date them both for awhile, that will tell you who you want to be with. I don't think that having to choose a girlfriend should be your only option.

I never did understand this business of "going with someone" as in you were slutty or irresponsible to want to date several people.. not to have sex but to just have a fun time with several people.

What everyone said basically covers what I'm thinking (you guys are so dang smart).

P.S. Freshamn year is the big sucky.

Runic You are conflicked. You need to open up to the possabilities to what if.
Do not tie yourself to just one person,
There are so many possabilities awaiting you.
If you do not try you will never know.