ok here is the situation. You see me and my boyfriend have been dating almost four months now and i really feel like i love him but last night i went to a party and stayed all night with two of my best friends but my very best friend's EX boyfriend was there but they r still friends and all but anyway when they were going out(my best friend and the guy) i used to hang out with them alot just the three of us and i kinda started to like him a little but i mean i couldn't do anything cause she was going out with him. But then she broke up with him and i didn't see him alot anymore so i knida just got over him. Well anyway back to last night, last night it started raing and we were like all camping out so everybody got in their cars and went to sleep cause most everybody was drunk anyway but i wasrn't that bad but anyway i went and sat in the car with her EX and we were just talkin cause we are still friends and all, but then we got really quiet and we just looked at each other and the he kissed me and he said you have no idea how long i've wanted to do that and I said how long and he goes since 5 mins. after the first time i met you.So i have no idea what to do i mean i am crazy about my boyfriend but i have liked this guy for a long time and now i find out he likes me too. Please give me some suggestions i don't know what to do and i'm really confuzed.

So let's see. You've got two guys that you think you like. It all boils down to your choice. Your boyfriend or the other guy?

Weigh your options. Do you want to be with both guys just as much? Do you like your boyfriend more? You've been dating your boyfriend for four months. Do you want to continue what you've started for four months, or are you willing to end it? If you leave your boyfriend at this point, you're done with him for good. You have to ask yourself, which is the guy you want to be with?

I'd recommend taking a while to let your feelings on the other guy settle. See if you still feel the same way later. Find out if you really like this guy enough to break up with your boyfriend. Think about what you really want.

In the end, it's probably pretty simple. Since you say you're crazy about your boyfriend, possibly even in love with him, it sounds like you like your boyfriend more than the other guy, or at least as much. If so, I'd say to stay with your boyfriend and too bad for the other guy. You've got the guy you want.

The key phrase here is "...most everybody was drunk anyway but i wasrn't that bad..."
Trust me, Darlin', when I say that you should not make any hasty choices based on a random kiss that happened when you were both even a little bit intoxicated.(Just by the way, underage drinking is illegal and being even a little tipsy when you're around guys can lead to some pretty big complications...it's best to make decisions with a clear head...lecture over, back to your problem.)

You don't give your age but I'm pretty sure, just because you put this in "teen issues", that you're still quite young and you're likely to have half a dozen young men turn your head before you hit college, and it just gets worse at that point. Ease up on yourself, there is really no law that says you have to be in a "relationship" and there is nothing wrong with playing the field a little as long as you're honest and smart about it. When I say "Play the field" I do not mean you should be making out with every third boy you lay eyes on, I mean that it's okay not to make promises or commitments to any one guy if you're not ready to be exclusive.
I think you need to take a week or so and decide just how crazy you are about your boyfriend and to contemplate how your "very best friend" might react if you start seeing her ex... Boys are replaceable, real friends are too precious to risk hurting.

"...real friends are too precious to risk hurting."

If you learn nothing else in your teen years, learn this.

it's obvious you're not in love.
you're probably too young to even know what love is. Since he kissed you and you let him you're pretty much a cheater. Break up with your boyfriend and go out with that other guy, but do so knowing full well you might destroy your friendship with your best friend.
Goodluck, because either way you're gonna lose somebody you care about.

Stop drinking is my suggestion.

Followed with "Stick with the evil you know over the evil you don't know"

Which in this case means stick with your present BF and don't pursue another.

Relationships are work - lots of work. As you grow older you may find yourself in more relationships. If you start making it a habit of jumping from one guy to another it will be a life long habit that will result in a world of woe for you.

People who have stayed together for years and years and years don't do so because its easy. Heck, even at 40 years of age I have some young folk who are more than willing to if not just give me a "good time" then actually "settle down" with me into a "relationship". I could as the old saw goes, turn in my 40 for two 20's .

However I am already in a long term relationship that I am happy with. Why risk what I have over a potential love interest?

Sounds like this other guy doesn't really know what he wants - after all he's been "wanting to kiss you for a long time." Hello - if this is the case then why does he have to wait until a party where everybody (with the exception of you of course) are drunk to one degree or another?

Work at maintaining your present relationship and look at the temptations as "could have beens" because nothing you ever don't have is not actually better than what you DO have.

There are some very basic and simple rules to getting by in this world, and an important one is to never date your friend's ex-boyfriends. Never. Just don't do that because it's totally wrong.

Get it set in your head and never go there again. You'll be much happier in the long run.

I agree that you should stay away from your friend's ex. That is a line you should never cross.

Think of how you would feel if your friend started kissing the guy you are with now. Even if you were broken up do you think that would be okay? How would you feel?

Your friend confided in you when she was with him. You know the problems they had and why they aren't together. You dating him is just backstabbing, low and just plain wrong.

Remember: Boyfriends will come and go but friends are forever.

You've got to ask yourself, is it love or is it just an infatuation?

I'm 17 years old. I've been dating my girlfriend for close to eight months now. I believe that what we have together is love - we are very close.

If you were able to get over him because you didn't see him for so long, then you have never been in love with him, its just a crush. Time will pass, and so will your crush.

Alcohol can be a big factor in these things, especially when people are teens. Teens are always emotional wrecks - their brains are completely rewired from being a childs brain to an adults brain. The alcohol was a major influence in what happened.

You've got to ask yourself, would you have done the same thing if you had been sober during the day? No matter how little you drank, the alcohol was still a factor.

What do you really feel towards your boyfriend? Towards this other guy? How much do you want to hurt your boyfriend and your friend? Maybe you feel like if you broke up with him and starting to date this other guy will hurt him. It will. But it will hurt him far more to know you're living a lie together.

What you need to do is avoid seeing this other guy and see what your feelings towards him are.

He said "you have no idea how long i've wanted to do that and I said how long and he goes since 5 mins. after the first time i met you." Just how drunk was he? It could be that he doesn't remember meeting you before, and he only remembered you from meeting you that night. If so, it is VERY likely that what he felt wasn't attraction, but lust.

One teen to another, you need to sort out your priorities, and decide what is best for yourself. Don't make any hasty decisions, think about all of your options.