My and my girl friend want to go out on a date. It will be our first time. I'm a little nervous what her pearnts might say or think. My pearnts and her pearnts kind of know each other throgh schhol. What should I do? Any tips for the first date and meeting her pearnts? Thanks.
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05-31-03, 08:12 PM
puppyblues
Doug, wow! What an awesome time you are going through in your life right now! It's fun, scary and intimidating all at the same time. I bet your stomach is in knots! Wink
Let me say, first, that it's nice to see a young man still interested in parents opinions. These days it seems as though kids are more disrespectful to parents of their girl/boy friends then ever before. So good for you! Your girlfriend is very lucky to have found you. Smile

The only advice I can offer you, and it's what I look for when my own daughter brings a boy home, is to be yourself, no matter what. No one likes a fake, or phoney. Being yourself, you not only give them the 'true you', but you you are being true to yourself as well. Your girlfriend will catch on very fast if you try to act like something you are not.
Be polite, open the door for your girlfriend and just basically be nice. Answer any questions that they may have for you, and it's good to ask if there is a certain time you should have their daughter home. Even if you already know her curfew, ask anyway. It shows them that you care about her well being and saftey.
Most of all, smile and have fun with it. I can't stand uptight boys that my daughter brings around. Take a deep breath, put a smile on your face and ring that bell!!

HAVE A GREAT TIME DOUG!!! Smile Smile Smile Smile

06-01-03, 10:52 AM
Texan-In-Exile
Doug - Puppy has given you some very good advice! Smile

I also like it when my kids' friends are willing to talk to us (parents). Do like Pup said and be yourself, and talk with them a little while. You don't have to spend a long time - just don't duck in, grab their daughter, and rush out! Red Face

And remember - they'll understand if you're nervous, so don't worry about that! Smile Believe it or not - they were once in the same position you're in now! Wink

06-01-03, 11:13 AM
cattywampus
I think it's incredible that in these progressive times a young man will go to a girl's house to pick her up, rather than meet her at the mall or wait outside in his pickup, honking the horn. This ought to be enough to bring them to their knees. You sound like a young man with a good head on his shoulders (work on that spelling, though) - you'll be all right. Don't worry.

Catty Wink

06-01-03, 12:53 PM
Sherasi
Another thing to make the best impression is to be clean (clean hair and clean body) and as neat as the current styles allow. Wink

Be clean shaven and have combed hair, then her parents will not be as worried about the kind of young man their daughter is going out with.

As said above, be yourself and don't try to impress them, that just makes you look like a jerk.

06-01-03, 05:28 PM
Yelena
Don't worry about it buddy. Just be yourself, and be comfortable or else they're gonna think you're not being yourself and putting on a show to impress them.

And remember something my boyfriend once learned: No dirty jokes okay!

Parents (thats spelled parents) don't always get em.

And don't lie. And wear clean pants. And don't smell bad or pick your nose or lazily scratch your butt. Just don't. Big Grin

06-03-03, 10:53 AM
Elexina

quote:Originally posted by Yelena:
And don't lie. And wear clean pants. And don't smell bad or pick your nose or lazily scratch your butt. Just don't. Big Grin


Good points for meeting the parents, but remember to be yourself around your girlfriend! If you scratch, scratch around her. She deserves to know who you really are. Wink

06-04-03, 07:41 AM
Doug
Thanks for the tips guys. Keep them coming. When me and my girl friend go out on a date and make out in the back seat in the movie thearter parking lot, is there any thing worng againist that? Are we breaking the law? Thanks! :-) Big Grin

06-04-03, 09:27 AM
Adi
As long as your girlfriend is not a close family member I think you'll be OK.

If you make out, remember that before you leave to take her home, you check each other to make sure that:

1. your pants fly is not undone/her clothing looks neat and tidy.

2. your hair and hers is not messed-up.

3. there are no visible hickies on either of you.

4. you are not sporting a tent-pole in the front of your pants.

5. you will get her home before the curfew her mother/father set.


When you bring her home, walk her to the door, except when....

...you're going to be late. Let her phone ahead and tell her parents BEFORE the deadline. If it's not possible to phone and you're late, stop at the end of her road and watch her all the way to her door. Do not attempt to get out of the car and expose yourself to bullets, bats, fists, wicked looks of your girlfriend's angry father/mother.

06-04-03, 10:50 AM
puppyblues
ROTFL Adi!!!! Well, least your honest! Eek heeheehee

She makes some good points there, Doug! Big Grin

06-04-03, 02:02 PM
cattywampus
There is no law against necking in a car unless you are exposing yourself where other people can see you. People who have not consented, I mean. I remember one time when I was young, wore my best Jantzen sweater to the drive in - it was red, with a long line of tiny buttons down the front. We were making out in a quiet dark pulloff along the highway, having a great time when a trooper pulled in behind and came at us with what must have been the the world's largest, brightest flashlight. He got a good look as I frantically started buttoning up all those tiny buttons - from the bottom of course. What a dumbo.

Catty Big Grin Red Face Razz

06-04-03, 05:40 PM
Doug
So if I park furthest from the movie thearter but not to far to be suspious then I could make out with her? Would at night time be a good idea also? Thanks. Keep the help and tips coming :-)

06-04-03, 06:23 PM
puppyblues
Doug, if you are talking about a drive inn movie, it's going to be dark anyway, right? Or am I missing something here?? Confused

Make sure your girlfriend is up for this, don't take it for granted that she wants to make out. You have to take into her account her feelings as well. You haven't said how long you've been dating her, so make sure it's the right time in your relationship to be making out Wink

heeheehee, being a teenager is fun, huh?? Wish I was again!! Big Grin

06-04-03, 07:28 PM
Doug
It will not be a drive in. Just a regular movie theater We've benn dateing for 3 years now. She said she wants to make out with me, so I guess I'll do it. So if I park furthest from the movie thearter but not to far to be suspious then I could make out with her? Wink

06-04-03, 08:13 PM
puppyblues
Well, I guess I'm wondering why you are taking her to a movie, if your going to sit in the car to make out? Confused You may have to spell this one out for me, Doug. Roll Eyes

Three years is quite a long time! How old are you? I'm surprised you haven't done this before now, but very glad you waited. Please be careful and make sure you are prepared to stop before things get too far. Making out is fun and also an essential part of being a teenager Big Grin (boy do I miss being a teenager! Big Grin) but it can get carried away too. Just know in your head that the kissing is as far as it will go and don't let it get out of hand.

Please explain it to me about how you are going to watch a movie inside a movie theatre while sitting in your car? Confused and why does it matter where you park? Confused

06-05-03, 03:25 AM
Adi
Doug

Be sure to wash your equipment before doing anything like that. Having something cheesy down there will spoil the moment (at least for your girlfriend).

06-05-03, 07:01 AM
Adi
Puppy

I think Doug just wants to find a quiet spot. He had no intention of watching a movie, he wants to make out. Parking lots for cinemas are usually pretty large and have quiet corners. Puppy, I'll bet your parents had an easy time with you huh? You don't sound half sneaky enough to give your parents reason to worry. My parents on the other hand.... Wink

Doug

I'd recommend going on what would otherwise be a quiet night there, that way you'll get much more choice of where to park and be more likely to find a quiet corner in the lot. Use my sneaky experience and don't listen to Puppy or you'll die having never experienced more than a peck on the cheek. Hahahahaha. Wink

[This message was edited by Adi on 06-05-03 at 07:20 AM.]

06-05-03, 12:33 PM
puppyblues
Razz Adi! Razz

Actually, I gave my parents the worst time. Roll Eyes (seriously) Only thing is, I had the same boyfriend from the time I was 12, married him at 18 and on and on. They were (my parents) hippies, too busy to worry much about me, so I didn't have to sneak much Wink
Doug just had me a little confused on where he was taking her. PLUS, he's been going out with her for three years now and they are just now making out, that gave me reason to think that maybe they are quite young or just now ready to start experiementing with things.
Just want the best for Doug and his girlfriend, Adi. Smile

YOU on the other hand, prolly DO give your parents fits, eh?? Eek Razz

06-05-03, 03:00 PM
Doug
The plan for me and her would be this: I would either make out with her in the car before or after we see a moive I want a good parking space so no one can see us. I won't go to far if you know what I mean. I'm 17. She is a great girl. At night would be a better choice then no one can see us right? Any more tips and advice? I need all that I can get for my first date with her. Wink Thanks. Smile

06-06-03, 01:04 AM
Adi
Doug,

Bottom line here. You've been dating her for 3 years. She likes you and you like her or you wouldn't have been dating that long. If you've been dating 3 years, then you should be relaxed in each other's company by now. If you're relaxed, you'll work it all out between you at the time. If you're not comfortable with her by now, she's the wrong girl or you're the wrong guy. You don't need advice from me or anyone else, so stop reading this thread after the next sentence. Use your head and heart and not somebody else's and everything will be OK.

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