I just want some opinions on this subject, the girl and guy involved are not teens but there was no where else to post this, A guy gives a girl a ring because he was led to believe things could go further (not sexually), but the girl gives back the ring, she didn't have those feelings, time goes by and guy meets new girl they both fall in love and he asked new girl if she wants to wear the ring, she loves it and doens't mind wearing it, is this proper.
Thanks for oponions.

Woah. Interesting question.

I'd say yes. He bought it. What else would he do with it other than get worth out of it (money or another girl). Would he just keep it on his shelf? I don't see selling it to be different than giving it to a new girl. If the first girl wasn't there, you'd be doing the same thing. It'd be the same situation. What your doing right now would still be the same. And selling it seems reasonable. The basic question to ask is does it matter that who you intended it to be for when you bought it changed? You still did buy it, just giving it to someone else than you expectred. So there you go.

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Isn't it interesting the silly emotional connections some people apply to jewelry? It is, afterall, just jewelry. I say that if the second girl is well aware that her predecessor wore it and returned it, yet she is perfectly happy wearing it, then there is no problem. I also feel that as more time passes and deeper feelings are formed, then the man should buy a new ring for this girl.

Why not?
It is special to him. Have you ever heard of someone wearing someone esles ring before?
A family hierloom? Grandma's wedding ring?
You must be someone special for him to give it to you.
Just because that other did not understand how unique and special he was makes the gift any less valuable. YOU reconized his special qualities.
considerate this way She did not know a good thing when she saw it. You were SMARTER.
Wear that ring as a testament to your good fortune.

Or concider this ...
He is to cheep to buy a new one for you.
And this is how he will always be.
Only time will tell.
But I like to believe the best in people not the worst.

Proper?

In a day and age where people kept track of such things and dating was called courting it would be improper to use the ring for another woman. Unless it was a heirloom item.

Today the situation is different. We leave it up to the couple to decide. After all it is just a ring, nothing worth much beyond the material. If they took it to a pawn shop they might get $20.00 for it - even if it cost him $1000.00!

However he obviously feels something about this ring, it is special to him, thus in his way he is giving something special to the new lass.

Besides there is a difference in this situation which similar situation are just plain wrong.

The difference that I see her is that:

He asked, didn't try to pawn it off on her as a recent purchase for her alone.

She doesn't mind, in fact she most likely sees it as a symbol of his desire to pair off with someone, a symbol of his intent and heart.

Cheers

David

Well, if the new girl is aware that the ring belonged to someone else first (and, wearing an old girlfriend's ring is totally different from wearing a family heirloom), and she doesn't have a problem with this, then it's fine.
Personally, I think it's a bit weird and would never wear jewelry or anything that had belonged to my partner's ex, but to each his (or her) own.

If the new girl has no problem with it I see no harm. One does have to wonder if his holding on to it means he is still thinking of the girl in some way as a person he may reconnect with.

I see no problem with it. If it were an engagement or wedding ring, that might be a little weird, but not just a promise ring or such. If anything, I think it shows he's practical and smart not to waste the money he's already spent on the first ring just because another girl (didn't even) wear it.