How do I move on from a "best friend?" I didnt think it would be this hard. I was doing fine until she called me the other day. It hurts so bad. She hurt me so much and the last thing I need is her in my life. She'll only hurt me again. But I cant live without her. We were best friends. Even if we patched things up things would never be the same again. We've both changed into different people.

Loosing friends that mean so much is very hard and so painful! That she called you is maybe her way of extending the "olive branch", so take it and forgive her. However, you need not let her be in the same position as she once was in your life. You both need to forgive each other and yes, move on knowing that what was won't be.
You set the boundraries with her. Tell her what you are willing to do as far as being her friend. You be incontrol as long as you need be. She'll understand and repect your terms and if she doesn't then this friendship may have been an unhealthy one. You set the boundraries. You can do it! Karen

if it's that hard to do then perhaps it's not time to sever these ties. As with the other answer - maybe you try again and set boundries - both for you and for her. Decide what you will accept and give it another shot.

It is said that people come into your lives for a reason. Some for a short time, some forever and others somewhere in between. Sounds like whatever life lesson you are to learn or to help her learn has not been reached yet and this is the reason that you are having such a difficult time just moving on.

There may be something more to learn from the relationship for either or both of you.

I'm going through the same thing. I just lost my best friend too. When I started my new job working midnights a few years ago we just slowly started growing apart. I've just been trying not to think about it. Its very sad. When I think about it it makes me sad, then angry, then sad etc... Oh well.. When she calls I just know something is not right. We both have to try too hard. We don't have what we once did. If you really believe that she is the last person you need in your life then you are probably right. So what do you do? You deal with the pain and move on. It's gonna hurt. (sorry but that's the truth) Just remember that if the trust is gone there isn't much left. It doesn't sound like you are willing to be hurt again. You still COULD give your relationship another chance as long as it doesn't go against your core beliefs. If it does then you just have to let it go. Just always follow your instincts. Most importantly...Be true to yourself!

I know what you're going through. I had pretty much lost my best friend last summer and through half of last school year. One of our mutual friends and her became VERY close friends and I felt VERY betrayed, by BOTH of them. So I started hanging around another group of friends, which turned out not to be a bad thing necessarily, at ALL. I had SO much fun w/them! Although, i still REALLY missed my best bud. We had literally been like sisters since we were 2 or 3. I finally got into the "just plain pissed stage". When my mom would ask if I'd go back to being so close to her again, I'd quickly retort, nope! While it was a REALLY hard time for me, it was also, in a way, a good experience. I made a LOT of new friends, AND I got really close to those friends that were just..regular friends..IT allowed me to spend a lot of time w/my guy friends too, which was SO much fun. I get along really well w/guys, and I found out how much fun it was just to have a night out w/the guys. It also had a lot to do w/how me and my boyfriend got hooked up. Finally, our mutual friend that had clinged to MY best friend, decided to go and get a different best friend (Which she tends to do, bounce around from close friend to close friend). I knew this would happen sooner or later, and I had NO intent on taking my best friend back when she came crawling. But..I did. I knew it wasn't worth losing 15 years of friendship over. She knew she had made a mistake. I ended up getting pretty close to "the mutual friend" a little later, and my best friend ended up going through what I went through. Her mom asked her what was up w/me and this friend and she told her, "I can't say anything, I did the same thing to her." Anyways, we're all good now, and we're all 3 really good friends. I hope that wasn't TOO confusing! Sorry! Moral of the story, there probably isn't anything that's worth losing a best friend over. if she's calling u, that's her way of apologizing.