So... this is a weird and kind of embarrassing question, but I figured I'd ask since most people here seem to be ok with off-the-wall questions.

What is a good way to finish a make-out session with a guy? *blushes beyond belief*

Just a quick background on myself before you answer... I'm an 18 year old girl who plans to stay a virgin until marriage. I haven't had any huge problems with this subject, but for some reason I feel REALLY awkward when I've been kissing a guy for awhile and I either need to get home or just want to stop because I'm tired, etc. I know it's definitely not a good tactic to just stop kissing all of a sudden, so if any of you ladies out there could give me some advice, I'd REALLY appreciate it.

Some unsolicited advice from a male with four score years of experience: Guys notoriously NEVER get tired. Carry Mace!

Actually, Frank is on the right track here; this is a question better answered by men. Not to insult the ladies, but they can say what met with success with them, but not knowing what the guy was really thinking. I would say that from the beginning, let the guy know your plan to remain a virgin, and stick with that plan. This shows you are upfront, and also is a good measure (most of the time) of the guy's sincerity (i.e., he just isn't looking for notches on his gun). After that, why not still be honest? "I have to get home" and "I'm really tired" are perfectly legitimate statements. If you're afraid of scaring off the guy, or him losing interest, then maybe he just isn't the right guy.

A simple "We need to stop now"* is enough, although if you want to add that you are tired or want to go home, that is certainly acceptable. If the guy doesn't understand that, why waste your time with him again? Enough guys will understand; some will not call on you again, but there is no loss there. The guy you are looking for will not only understand, but quite possibly say, "You're right."


*The girl I remeber best, after 40 years, is the one who said, and meant, that.

I think the men have more than adequately answered the question.

As Dorian said, if the young man in question doesn't respect your statement you want to stop now, then you need to find a young many who respects YOUR needs as much as he does his.

The only reason I even looked at this thread was the tempting "girls only" command.

But seriously, if you plan on keeping your vow of virginity, you need to discuss this with your partner and really get your 'making out' sessions in control. Sexual arousal can be extremely powerful and very often will cloud the mind, causing bad decisions to be made by both parties, frequently resulting in full intercourse. And very often without protection.

Best wishes.

I really appreciate everyone's advice.

frankvan - Your comment gave me a good laugh. Even though I am young, I have definitely realized that guys never seem to get tired, HAHA.

juanruiz - I now see that men's opinions are in fact important in this matter. I haven't ever actually come right out and told a guy that I am a virgin and plan to remain so, but the few guys I have dated seem to get the message that I'm not "easy." I will think about being up front about my plans in future situations. It's not so much that I'm afraid of scaring the guy off or losing interest, it's more that I don't want to "ruin the moment" by being like "Well honey, I'm really tired, so I'm gonna go." You know what I mean? I guess I'm looking for a more graceful way to do it.

DorianGreyed - I agree that any guy worth dating isn't going to be put off by the fact that I'm tired or need to go home or whatever. As I said above, I guess I'm just looking for a more graceful way to end the situation.

Sherasi - I totally agree.

Kendor - HAHA, now I realize that I shouldn't have commanded "girls only," although for some reason the guys ignored it, (but I'm glad they did.) I've never been in a situation where I've been tempted to go too far, but I know it can happen. As awkward as it may be, I think that I need to be more upfront about my virginity and my plans to stay that way. That will help the guy understand exactly where I'm coming from, and then he can decide whether or not he can deal with that.

Sarah, a fine point, if you will -

"We need to stop" brings the boy into the equation. It is not just you that needs to stop. If he is bright enough to be with a girl as bright as you have shown yourself to be over the last four years, he'll know exactly what you are saying, and will probably think about the implications the rest of the night. (Trust me - guys really do that. I have no idea how many nights I staye awake wondering exactly what she meant.) He will probably gain even more respect for you. If a guy doesn't respect you, you shouldn't waste another minute with him.

man if a woman said that to me I'd get kinda mad.
"we need to stop now."
No way, if you want to end a make out session, just say you have to be getting home now. if he's a gentlemen he'll be cool.
I remember once I was trying to go all the way with this woman, she didn't want to, I mean as far as I got was 3rd base. All she said to me was "hey I think I should be getting home now. I really don't think I should do this tonite."
I was cool, I took her home and it was all good.
I don't know if that helps at all, but there is a right way to turn someone down and a way to turn them down where it would really hurt.
If the guys is a true gentleman he'll understand. I always do.