I have been unable to find a non-religious support group for spouses of binge alcoholics.

There is a non-religous support group for the alcoholics, called "Smart Recovery", but they have not yet instituted anything for the non-drinking side of the family. If any of you know of such a thing, I'd really like to know of it. Thanx.

P.S. I tried Al-Anon, but it's just not a good match for my mentality.

It will be hard to find such a group, due to the fact that alcoholism treatment is tied so heavily to the 12-Step program, where you are supposed to trust that the ever popular "Higher Power" will see you through. There is a book called "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie that you might find helpful. It does talk about the higher power, but not so much that you can't get anything else out of it. It's not in your face so much. It has been tremendously helpful to many people in your situation. There is an excerpt on Amazon, if you'd like check it out. Spouses of alcholics (binge or otherwise) typically have codependent personalities. They are so worried about what's going to happen next or how they can stop others from doing things they don't want them to do, they ignore their own wants and needs. They do a lot of things to sabotage their own lives and they don't even realize they are doing them. I'm glad that you are seeking help. Good luck.

Cris5,

Thank you very kindly for your time and your advice.