Has any one here ever "did it" with their first true love?

Frank you crack me up sometimes

Thanks for making me smile before I start work today !

None of your business!

Doug, we've given you all the advice, information and perspective we can on the topic of sex. I have no idea what it is you're looking to hear, but I have a feeling we're going to dissappoint.

Exactly MrsS!

I do not beleive I'm asking for advice in my question. Just a yes or no.

You are asking for information, and, so far, no one has been willing to give you that information. Five people have responded, including me, and not one has given you a Yes or No. Take a hint, Doug.

What exactly do you mean by "did it"?

True love is not that person you are completely infatuated with when you are young. It is not the person you think about day and night, or the one who you cannot imagine being without.

As you become older and wiser, you will realize that true love is what you have experienced together. It is the shared pain and the shared joy of a lifetime you are building together. It is all of the hard spots and how you managed to come through them together. It is my great aunt, sitting with her bedridden husband 24/7 for six years, feeding him, reading to him, bathing him, and cleaning him when he soiled himself.

If your girlfriend were paralyzed in a car wreck this afternoon would you, forsaking all others for the rest of your life, devote yourself to her as my great aunt did my great uncle, without complaint?

"First true love" implies there will be a second true love. I don't see the devotion in your writings.

Rarely is the first person you believe to be your “first true love” actually so, and even rarer is the emotion you feel for that person actually love at all. Usually it is lust or passion, want or need, but rarely love. As you gain in years and maturity you will discover that your adolescent “loves” were not that at all and that your angst-full heartbreaks were actually quite trivial.
Perhaps no one has given you a flat yes or no because it is actually a difficult question. People may have “done it” (and by that I assume you mean “had sexual intercourse”) with someone who they thought, at the time, was their first love, but later came to realize that what they shared was not love. Sometimes the first person you have sex with is not someone you love at all (not that this is appropriate or commendable). Sometimes you find your first true love a ways down the road. It is only by looking back over our experiences from a later vantage point that we can determine who our first true love was. A person who has only been in one relationship and believes that to be their first true love may be correct, but they have nothing to compare it to. After living more and experiencing more you can look back and say, “yes, that person was my first love” or “wow, I was really deluding myself on that whole thing.”

Love is not a pre-requisite for sex, but it ought to be a consideration. And sex does not automatically follow love. Sometimes, a person loves his or her partner so much that he or she will accept not having sex, because the partner is not ready. That is maturity and understanding. Assuming sex is an automatic part of any relationship, even one assumed to be a “first true love,” is irresponsible and uncaring.

Coldfuse has an interesting point. “First true love” does imply that there will be a second. But shouldn’t your true love be your only love? There are different sorts of relationships and different levels of love, but shouldn’t the person you characterize as your “true love” be the one and only, the romantic “great love of your life”? If it is your first, how do you know it’s your true love? If it is your true love, should it be classified as a first?
Love (and “love”) is indeed a curious thing.

If I could count the times I thanked my lucky stars that my first 'crush' dumped me!!!

And no, we didn't 'do it'. Times were different then. Boys were brought up to respect a girl's right to say 'no', because there was simply no reliable form of birth control except saying 'no' in those days.

If a boy was too insistent, he got a bad reputation with both other boys and with girls.

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Originally posted by babthrower:
If I could count the times I thanked my lucky stars that my first 'crush' dumped me!!!

Yes, snap ! And how distance [of time] lends disenchantment to the view !

When I was your age, Doug, sex hadn't been invented yet. We had to improvise.

LMAO@ Frank!

Well, my first true love was Sophia Loren. Since then, I have been married for 38 years to the same woman, and I am delighted to say that I must have 'done it' with both of them (at very different times of my life of course) several thousand times;

...apart from Sophia Loren...

That's a wonderful story Ritz, and you obviously made the right choice. Sophia would have broken your heart anyway.

Wellll......
I could not have taken her from Carlo Ponti in those days, it would have destroyed him... ...these are sacrifices one has to make if one is truly mature and sensible of the feelings of others...

Ritz, that is so noble and commendable. Now I know the answer to "where have all the good guys gone?"

Interesting side note, in a roundabout way, my parents named me after Sophia Loren -and Lauren Bacall.