There's this woman I've been cyber friends with for probably 8 months or so--we email and IM a lot, plus we used to post in the same DF.

Anyway, lately I've noticed her signing off MSN messenger as soon as I sign on. Like, about 10-15 seconds after I start up my computer, I get the little blink that she's off line.

Then when we do talk, it's weird. Like, I don't go to the DFs that we were both in anymore, but she rants on and on about the people there like I know what she's talking about. Plus she'll randomly sign off in the middle of a conversation, then email me like the next day saying someone stopped over or something.

Anyway, she has told me in great detail about where she lives, and it's in the Midwest. Today we were talking and she starts telling me a story about going downtown to LA and talking to someone. I said, LA? She says, Los Angeles.

I ask, why are you in LA? very confused.

She immediately signs off.

I sent her a message that because of this very odd conversation I'd rather not talk to her on the messenger for a while, and there's been no response.

I'm a little weirded out about the whole thing, and a bit upset that I mentioned AP and my name on here, because now I'm afraid if she is a freakazoid she'll find me here.

What do you all think of this???
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09-12-03, 09:44 PM
LaPisLaZuLi
She is weird, but I don't know if it's anything to worry about. Seems like she has been trying to avoid you, maybe because she lied so much and she knows she is having problems keeping the lies straight.

I guess time will tell, but if I were you, I don't think it's much to really worry about.

09-12-03, 10:09 PM
Sherasi
Yeah, she does sound like she lied, she does sound like she is avoiding you so don't worry about it.

09-12-03, 10:35 PM
puppyblues
Yikes! It sounds like she lied to you. But why would she do that?? FrownFrown I'm sorry MTT. You should block her or take her off your messenger. But I'm sorry that you lost what you thought was a friend. Frown That always hurts.

09-12-03, 10:42 PM
LaPisLaZuLi
Usually, when people lie like that it's because they want to be liked. They think that their own life isn't good enough, so they try to compensate.

It's sad, really.

09-13-03, 05:50 AM
Jelp01
People on-line will do that, lie to make it sound like they're someone they're not. It's too bad when that happens, but the anonymity of the Internet is great place for people to assume all sorts of false identities.

Myself, I've told the truth from the beginning and it's too late to start lying now. Wink

09-13-03, 07:55 AM
gizmogram
Me too Jelp...know too many people now. Besides, I like the idea of being able to make real friends, and I'm lucky - I've made many real friends here. Never have tried anywhere else though, I think I'd be a little nervous about getting to know people other than in the Pool where it's safe!

09-13-03, 08:45 AM
soaringhorse
Another possiblity is that someone besides her uses her computer, and maybe sometimes that person signs off of her messenger, and sometimes they play along with you. But if they are trying to cover up for the lies, that's their problem, and not for you to get involved with. Why they are doing this? Who knows, but it's not right to mislead you. I always said, when a person starts lieing they always have to say another one to cover up the first one, it's a vicious cycle. They will get caught up in it, and lose alot of friends that way. Don't let it discourage you, some people are just like that, either its a chronic thing or they are under some kind of substance abuse, or their lives are pretty messed up.

09-13-03, 11:17 AM
MommyTimesTwo
Thanks for your advice, guys. She emailed today and said she had no idea what I was talking about and went on and on about how she wasn't "focusing" while we were talking because she was doing this, this, and this.

I responded saying that wasn't the weird part--signing off as soon as I asked why they were in LA was, and that I have been cyberstalked before and am not interested in being so again. Then I said I'm not going to be able to accept any more emails either. I was very polite, but the whole thing was just creepy! Confused

09-13-03, 03:18 PM
jusork
I like Lapis' 2nd post about those weird internet people over Jelp's. Jelp's sounds like those people aren't good to be around and as if the majority do that. And Lapis' explaination makes since.

I've talked to a couple people who've signed off semi-suddenly a couple times. They always come back to talk though. If she keeps comming back to talk to you, I don't see why you'd be worried about when she was signing off though because she isn't avoiding you if she instant messages you to talk. And I personally wouldn't end talking to her because of a lie. As long as you two are just an internet friendship I don't see how it would get out of hand really.

What is a DF, by the way? Confused

09-13-03, 05:29 PM
MommyTimesTwo
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