This may sound silly to some of you, but, I feel I have a problem. My son who is 27 is moving across country. He will be about 2700 miles from home. He is single and ment someone on the net and have become close friends. So he is moving there and she is susposed to help him get a job. Ok typical mom here I am so worried. I realize he is of age and all but, I not only worry about him going somewhere strange where he really doesn't know people, I also am upset he won't be with his family anymore. This is a very emotional time for me and has really got me upset. Any suggestions for me? Maybe others have already been through this before? It is sad to me to think of family so far from home and you only get to see them once or twice a year, people just tend to grow apart and I don't want that to happen. My husband is not in good health and would find it hard to travel that far. Thanks for any help.

It's perfectly normal for you to be a "typical mother" and worry. But what I see here are 2 separate situations. One being that he met someone from the internet (whom I'm assuming you have not met and know nothing about her except what she wants you to know)and the second being that he is moving far away from you. I understand your concerns but I think for now you might need to cut the apron strings and let him experience his own life. I'm sure you have raised a smart child and now it's time to let him go and let him make his own decisions...as hard as that might be for you. But I would stress the health situation of your husband so your son will know that visits from him would be most appreciated.

If this works out for him - great. And if it doesn't I'm sure he knows he has a loving family to come home to. Good luck. Parting children will always leave a void. Now is the time to devote to your husband.

I think that he is plenty old enough to make good decisions about who he makes friends with and lives with, the fact that he met them on the net makes no difference, i have made plenty of friends on the net, sure i dont talk to them as often as my other friends, but we still keep in touch, and think about it, i am sure that you yourself have made some friends on the net whether you know it or not, i tend to think that we at the pool are all just one big family, willing to help each other out. So I would not worry about him living with his friend.

what you COULD talk to him about though is your feeling that you two will become seperated, and loose touch.
Just tell him that you would like him to keep in touch, on the phone, and email and whatever, and that he should come back and visit you a couple times.

I left my family and moved all the way across country once. My daughter was so upset. After staying there for 9 months I came back home. Things were just too strange for me there, I felt like an alien. Don't worry about your son, chickens have a way of coming home to roost. He is still at the adventurous age. I'm sure he'll keep in touch. And about his online girlfriend, once they are together they may well find that a big mistake has been made. Good luck!

My husband, Sagus, was from Oregon. I was from Pennsylvania. I met him in the Portland, Oregon bus station on the way back home and we wrote and called for two years (no internet really back then, 13 years ago). He flew out and met my family at Christmas time, and I his. I moved out in February to Oregon to see if we could make it work. He and I decided to get married and moved back East together to go to school (was very isolated where he lived) that May. We've been married for 11 years now, and it was the best decision I've ever made. If he (your son)has working skills that are flexible, he is not without recourse. At 27, he is very able to make decisions, and old enough to live with the repercussions of them. I was 23 when I moved out to Oregon (3000 miles from home) to see if it could work. We married the following April in 1991. Sagus was worth the long distance writing/calling wait.