Why is it that I've waited so long for my ex to finally get his and now that he has- I really don't care. I thought I would be happy to see someone who hurt me so deeply finally get what is coming to them. I'm not sad about his situation. I don't miss him at all. I'm just- indifferent. Sucks to be him. That's it. There are no balloons falling from the ceiling and no desire to laugh or tell him off. I thought it would be like that. It isn't. I know I have moved on but shouldn't I be enjoying this? I'm not. (except for a chuckle here and there ) I thought sweet revenge was sweet- not boring.

Part of the revenge thing is you have to be the executioner - its not fun waiting for time or somebody else to deal that blow.

The second thing is that although back then you had strong feelings about him, you have moved on and time has taken the wind out of the sails so to speak.

Love's opposite is NOT hate. Hate and love run down the same path of caring - the true opposite of love is indifference - lack of caring.

We can say that you are out of love/hate with him now.

All in all that is a good thing.

Clare, Darling,
You already got your revenge before whatever happened recently... you got happy and stable and you're moving forward with your life. Your personal and your professional lives are going in great directions... THAT was your revenge, the sweet part, anyway. Recent events are not thrilling you like you thought they would because you're so "over it" that it no longer matters. How cool is that?

That is very .

'Nother good thing:

That you can be so nonchalant means that you let it go, and didn't dwell and obsess about how he done you wrong. That is really why your life is on track now. And that is why you deserve the good things.

(Just seconding Dvd and MrsS.)

Ummm, mind telling us how karma got him?
(Inquiring minds want to know!)
Or you can just tell me to MMOB!

sometimes in my life I have wished for revenge on people but then decided that to do so I would end up like them or worse-not to say that I am beter than they are-its just that I wish Peace too all I have argued with and have seen the loss of friendships with.I know now that my personality clashes so easily with others and now feel happier that I try not to change others and just let them be themselves...I feel the need here for a beer...excuse me

You are too nice of a human being to really ENJOY someone else's pain.

and you Kitty will always be a sweet person-thank you

Revenge is never 'sweet'. Don't go there.

I don't know if revenge can be sweet. I think it depends on the personality of the person seeking revenge.
Isn't revenge akin to hatred and anger? To hold on to those feelings, is to me a waste of time.
I have found, especially lately, that indifference to someone that has hurt me and broken my trust, feels better than any sort of revenge.
The ability to move on and find happiness and contentment, feels good.
Ultimately indifference is far stronger than revenge. It says that you couldn't care less about that person, and anything they say or do will have no impact on your life.

There is nothing 'sweet' about revenge. The only people who want this are JEALOUS people. They think they deserve to wrong others.

As I have experienced life, people who have a big problem with JEALOUSY are dangerous people you don't want to deal with, ever. They may be your friend, so watch it!

If you actually think 'REVENGE IS SWEET', you have a serious problem with JEALOUSY. Go to therapy! The rest of us don't wish to deal with your personal problems.



JEALOUS people never feel like they have or get enough out of life. They are takers. They take from friends, given the opportunity.

My advice, STAY AWAY FROM JEALOUS PEOPLE! I have made that mistake. These people have deeply hurt me with no regret at all.

When good things happen for JEALOUS people, you react, as a friend. You are happy for them. When something good happens for you, your JEALOUS friend is greedy and thinks they deserve what you earned.

Stay away from JEALOUS personality 'friends'. They are far from what you would ever dream a friend would do to you because of their own issues.

Well said, dg. Indifference really is the ultimate revenge.

Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn." ` Rhett Butler
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"Go to therapy! The rest of us don't wish to deal with your personal problems." - Wildflower

This may be the funniest statement of the year, if not the entire time AP has existed.

Wildflower I do believe Dorian was right-that statement of yours is pretty funny. I asked a friend recently what they thought of the term
Indifference and they replied it was a code word to them meaning

"Silent Hatred"

-well that was an interesting conversation we had that night

Well, I'm not sure if you are agreeing with your friend about indifference being a form of "silent hatred", but I would like to comment that the person has the definition of indifference wrong.
When I find that I am indifferent to somebody I have been close to, it is not an emotion I have chosen, but rather a lack of emotion.
Hatred eats away at a person. It makes them emotionally and physically ill in many cases.

Indifference is a lack of feeling in any way, shape or form for that person.
I am constantly surprised at my own change of feelings in life, in that I can have cared for a person so much at one time, and only weeks or months later feel absolutely nothing for them.

No I would say that I would not agree that Indifference is silent hatred. I find that for me I can be indifferent and yet at times when I see someone I haven't seen in a long time I will feel no ill will towards them at all. I think there are only 2 people I have felt nothing towards(and both of them I work at the same factory with-LOL) Tho even for them I know I have to find a way to be friends with them again

We are talking of some sort of stupid revenge of someone who hurt us in life. I said only JEALOUS people even go there.

Am I dealing with JEALOUS PEOPLE that feel entitled to harm another? Maybe so! You cannot get justice of vengance on anyone who has wronged you personally speaking, like have sex with your husband. It isn't illegal. It is hurtful.

You are not entitled to hurt someone you happen to not like out of 'jealousy'. Be a better person. Walk away.

Hate to break the news, but your husband/wife is not legally responsible to protect your feelings. They are legally allowed to cheat on you. Deal with it!

WF was your rant directed at anyone in particular?
I have no idea what you are talking about, and can only assume as usual, you haven't read any of the previous discussion.
It adds nothing to the thread, and in fact, it hardly makes sense at all. Nothing changes.

WF only reads the first line or so of other people's posts, then forms an opinion about what they said. Often the interpretation is more about WF's own personal problems than about the question or anyone else's reply. That's why I said once that I wouldn't want her to administer prescribed drugs to me!

"500 mg's of Cephalexin ? Oh, I can't allow that. 50 mg would be right so I'll give that. I remember when I had tonsillitis as a kid, I took 5 mg. and I was fine. So, yeah, 5 mg. Anyway I remember the prescription had a 5 so that's what he meant to write."

I am on topic, 'Sweet Revenge'. I said why it is not worth it. If you disagree, that is ok. Didn't mean to start war over this topic!

i'm always down for some sweet revvenge.

I just have to go to sleep now because I'm done.

SeattleRon