Just recently received word that one of my ( and Johnny Velo's) classmates is terminal with cancer...
My question is: What does one say when sending a card..? I don't want to say "I hope this finds you feeling better" or "did ya hear the one about ".... Would a simple "THINKING OF YOU" be proper ??
Unfortunaly, its becomming that time of life when this is going to occur more ofter than one wishes and any help would be greatly appreciated...Thanks, Don

Thinking of you, says it all.

I know if I was on the receiving end, no words other then that would help me feel better. "Hope your feeling better" is OK if one is just sick or simple broken bone. The guy knows he is dieing, knows there is no hope, so the best one can expect is to know that his friends are there with him in heart. To know that someone remembers the good times with him and to know that "I have good friends."

You can't send a get well card, ya know? So yes, I agree with WoW...a "thinking of you" card is the best.

Since I'm sure this is someone you've known for a very long time, try to remember something very memorable and touching that involved him...remind him of that time and that you always remember it fondly.

Him knowing that he had an impact on your life will have an impact on HIM during this time.

When my time comes, regardless of the circumstances, I will feel better about leaving this earth knowing that I'd had a positive impact on my friends and family.

I believe I would be happy with a sheet torn out of a steno notebook and a note that says....Friend, I am so sorry to hear of your health troubles. You are on mind and in my heart and I am still remembering the time we ....

And the next note might say...I can't think of any special words that might make your day better so I am enclosing the works of a Master. And inclose a little Snoopy cartoon book.

if possible you could be very personal and deliver the card in person and say your goodbyes. thats very meaningful and touching if thats at all possible to do.

If not you could send him something that he would remember you by from you old days in high school. Along with a homemade card sharing your personal thoughts about him.

All great suggestions thus far. Either a "thinking of you" or just a friendship type card would be appropriate. Write a short note letting him know that you've thought of him throughout the years and any little "stories" from back when or any kind of an inside joke kinda thing that might make him remember back would be great. If you happen to live in the same town you went to school - perhaps a little something you pick up that would bring back some happy thoughts would likely be welcomed!! Or perhaps even a few copies of some pictures from your yearbook (it's unlikely that anyone from the family would have thought of this).

I had a family friend who had cancer - and I was looking here for some suggestions as to what to say. Unfortunately, when I went to visit, she wasn't up for anything so I couldn't use any of the warm suggestions that were made. Him just knowing that you have thought of him, will be the best gift of all.

NQD, I like your idea.
Ron, you surprise me everytime. Great answer.

My uncle was in a coma for 6 months. I sent the usual cards and notes avoiding saying Get Well. Than I started sending silly cards. My husband thought it was in bad taste but it brought a smile to my aunts face. She started putting them on the bulletin board in his room.

When it's terminal, why not make them smile. Take their minds off their illness for a minute or two. Also like Ron said, a personal note. Share an old story from your school days.

Someone where I work, was diagonosed with cancer about 6 months ago. She's a sweet lady. I didn't want something that said Get Well either because well...you know. So I decided to make her one myself. I drew some flowers and stuff on the front and on the inside I wrote that she was in our hearts and in our prayers. I had eveybody on my shift sign it. She was tickled pink that we had thought of her

Maybe you could send a card via email to anyone else from your highschool for whom you may have an address. Have them type a personal note. Or, if they live nearby, have them hand sign it. Then send it your friend and he will have a crd with several notes from his old friends. It'll let him know that he is not alone in this his difficult time.

My thanks to all for your help...