Hello, This is odd because I've never done this stuff before, but I have a weird situation. There's this girl that I work with, she's a year younger than I am. For a while now, I have been starting to like her more and more. She's a good friend and I enjoy her friendship but I also seem to want to become closer with her. I'm almost certain that she has no interest in me like that, and she has a boyfriend. Howerer I can't fully convince myself that we could never be together. I want to stop feeling this way about her because I think it could be getting in the way of our friendship. But I do want to be with her... Any suggestions?? Anyways, thanks for the help,
Jim 21 yrs

You can't control your emotions, but you can control your behavior. Just be her friend, that's it. Don't interfere in any way with her relationship with her boyfriend. It will not make her necessarily like you in the same way your feel towards her. It has to come naturally and of mutual desire to make more of your relationship than beyond friends.

In time, you may find someone else. Her current relationship may end. She may decide at some point in the future to be more than friends with you. For now, enjoy your friendship with her. You never know what the future will bring.

Wildflower is right. You cannot control your emotions. There is no switch that you can turn on and off to say "hey! stop liking this girl"

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having romantic feelings for this girl. Its completely natural. There is however, soemthing wrong with coming in between her and her boyfriend. Regardless of whether she returns these feelings toward you or not, you cannot step over the boundary line because she has a boyfriend.

I have always been a firm believer that "if its meant to be, love will find its way." I do believe that if this relationship is meant to be, then eventually it will be. In the meantime there isnt much you can do but wait.

There's one thing for sure, nothing ever stays the same. Therefore, if she has a boyfriend, that relationship is quite likely to crash. Then, if you by chance end up with her, that will change too, and you may lose her. So have hope now, and acceptance later.

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