i want a relationship with a woman. how do i do that. Since my younger teenaged years I've had nothing but meaningless business between women.
Can someone help me out, I am feelin kinda lonely and I do and am ready to have an adult relationship with a woman.
If anybody can help me out please E-Mail me
thank you
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09-14-03, 10:51 AM
Sherasi
I emailed you Ron.

09-14-03, 03:49 PM
blam
You're a nice honest guy Ron, just be yourself, you won't have a problem.

09-16-03, 01:48 AM
SeattleRon
my problem is even when I go to a grocery store and I see some nice lookin broad, I hit on her. I just don't know how to establish a relatiionship with a woman. It's always meaningless intercourse.
I mean, I tell women anything to get them in the sack. I tell them I'm a doctor, I'm in Med school. I own a business, whatever it takes.
I guess I'll try your advice Blam. See if it works..

09-16-03, 01:54 AM
tsaeb
Well, man, what kind of woman do you want to attract? I figure that if you suddenly want a woman of substance, then you had better get some substance of your own, you wolf. I, for one, doubt your . . . eh, sudden sincerity. Frankly, I think that you are hitting on the women here for some jollies of a different sort. Nah, I would not trust you near my body. Big Grin P.S. Work on how you are coming across, first to yourself and then toward others.

09-16-03, 02:47 AM
SeattleRon
thanks Tsaeb for your opinion.

09-16-03, 08:24 AM
MommyTimesTwo

quote:

Originally posted by SeattleRon:
my problem is even when I go to a grocery store and I see some nice lookin broad, I hit on her. I just don't know how to establish a relatiionship with a woman. It's always meaningless intercourse.
I mean, I tell women anything to get them in the sack. I tell them I'm a doctor, I'm in Med school. I own a business, whatever it takes.
I guess I'll try your advice Blam. See if it works..

Eek

Okay, first thing--the kind of woman who wants a relationship would probably smack you if you called her a broad.

Second--try NOT having sex. Don't go back to your apartment, if that's what it takes. Go out to dinner, see a movie, walk the town...just DON'T HAVE SEX. And DON'T LIE! Tell her about yourself as a person. Since you aren't trying to get her in bed, then there is no reason why you can't be honest. If you have to resort to talking about AP or chickens or something to keep from lying, DO IT!

Get to know her as a person to the point where you would be insulted if some random guy came up and called her a 'nice looking broad'. Then you are ready for a relationship.

09-16-03, 09:12 AM
Gin
Ron, MTT, has some great advise here. Take it into consideration.

You are a great guy but you have to look at women in a new light, not just for sex.

Good luck, sweetie. You will find her in time. Smile

09-16-03, 09:17 AM
hassia
ron,
i am a little concerned why you need to lie.
do you think that you are not interesting enough already to attract a woman and keep her interested in you? if you end up after one date always in bed with the woman, that is a very superficial relationship based on hormones, not trust and feelings.
if you don't find that you are worthy of having a woman who finds you interesting, then you need to find out why you feel that way.
i also recommend joining a club or taking a class at the local junior college.

09-16-03, 09:24 AM
aminator2002
I don't think you'll ever find anyone if you are just looking because you are lonely. Loneliness is a very unattractive trait... you might find another lonely person. Go make some friends and maybe along the way you'll find a nice girl.

Find some things that you admire in women and seek out a woman with those traits and treat her well. Be open, honest and smile. Look for someone who will be a good friend to you.

Also... you need to work on your language. No self respecting woman would date you if you continue to call women "broads", and if you lie you will definitely lose out.

09-16-03, 09:35 AM
Sherasi
Even if you find a lady who wants a relationship, even if you don't call HER a "broad", you will turn her off when you call OTHER women "broads". (I admit to a major mental "wince" everytime I read/"hear" the word when you post! Eek)

09-16-03, 09:35 AM
Kwll
Ron, I don't know why you would have to lie to a girl up front. That starts the whole thing out as a lie which would be found out eventually anyway. So, you couldn't have a relationship from the start because the whole thing is based on a lie. Just be yourself, if she doesn't like that then you aren't meant to be with her anyway and just move on. Need to get away from the car salesman mentality and you may be surprised at just how far you can go by being totally honest. A lot of women are tired of the "games" too.

Btw, "wench" is a much better word! Big Grin (Just kidding!)

09-16-03, 09:49 AM
Koz
First thing you need to do is gain self respect. Living a life of lies is no way to respect yourself. Trying to remember what lies you told to whom could become quite a burden. The truth is so much easier. You need to grow up a little.

The second thing is to genuinely respect women. Lying to them, and referring to women as “broads” is disgraceful Mad.(And infuriating to some people Mad) No self-respecting woman would want to be treated like that.

Wanting to get into a relationship just because you are bored or lonely is just flat out wrong. You need to form and nurture a friendship first, then see where it goes.

If you just want to get into the sack, head to your local red light district. “For a nominal service charge you can reach Nirvana tonight”. (Blatant Zappa reference Roll Eyes) Then you can walk away without having to worry about lying, or pretending to be something you are not.

09-16-03, 09:49 AM
Georgia85
Actually I prefer "Chick" to "Broad" or "Wench" Wink

Ron, in order to attract a quality woman and be in a sincere relationship one must first be happy with themselves. Until you can accept yourselve for who you are no other woman will either. Find a hobby that interests you (other than sex and skirt chasing) and dive deep into pursuing it. Chances are you will find women that share an interest in your hobbies and you will have that as an ice-breaker. And treat women as human beings and (gasp) friends. If you can develop a true friendship with a woman then love can develop and only then should you contemplate a physical relationship. It will take hard work but in the end sex where love is involved is far more rewarding than meaningless sex.

Congrats on your turn around.

[This message was edited by Georgia85 on 09-16-03 at 09:58 AM.]

09-16-03, 01:23 PM
kittypal
Ron, you have a great personality, your funny and I can tell you have a good heart with a lot of love in it. If you really want a serious thing you have to stop thinking in terms of sex and form a friendship. Just be yourself and be honest. We all love ya so I know some lucky lady is just waiting for you. Good luck and be patient.

09-16-03, 02:33 PM
SeattleRon
hey thanks you guys for all the advice. I greatly appreciate it. I'm gonna go ahead and try what you guys told me. See how it all plays out. Once again thanks for all the tips and advice.

09-16-03, 08:08 PM
samantha
I agree with all the above Ron. You would be so much fun to be with. Just relax and enjoy being with a girl as a friend first with out the sex involved. Get to know them as in TALKING Wink. We do have more to offer than just sex.

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