I feel like I have no one to talk too, I'm going to family and marriage counselling, to help with my husbands addictions, He has groups to go to to talk to ppl, My husband had a suicide attempt w/a crack over dose - made it hard on all, my 11 yr old son is now in a group home/treatment centre to help him with his now depression and suicide attempt ... and I'm always waiting to find out what next -- my 8 tr old is depressed b/c her brother cant live w/us. Im always stressed and anxious, I need a friend, some one I can talk to. Like I said - he's getting better - he has his groups, but I have no one to vent to -- Sorry bout this- it's actually rather edited ...
can anyone push me in a direction?

Hi..my name is Shannon, but everyone just calls me Mama.. id like to help if i can.. email me(my addy is in my profile) or if you like, simply post a private topic...

Hope to hear from you soon...

My thoughts and prayers are with you in the meantime

First and formost, I see that you are relatively new to Answerpool, welcome. And about your post, everyone here, almost, is willing to talk and befriend you. We are very supportive of each other. If there is anything I can do, personally, let me know. And why no-one has responded yet is due to the site being in construction: new site layout.

Have you tried counceling also? Families need as much support as the actual person who is having problems. you are sounding depressed and anxious also.

I, too, have been having some issues in my family and I have had counceling and am now on some medication to help me cope a bit better. I am an RN, so I am fully aware of medications risks and benefits... and I choose to use that route to manage.

There is no shame in having stress and needing help to cope and you are more than welcome to post here, on http://herport.com (a former sister site of Answerpool) or email practically anyone that posts in Health.

Welcome to Answerpool.

You can certainly vent here...we all do, but I think you might want to consider going to meetings that are comprised of men and women like yourself, who have similar issues that they are dealing with. There are groups for addicts, like NA, or alcoholics, like AA, but there are also groups for family members who are going through this, like AL-ANON is for families of alcoholics. Ask you doctor, or the counselors where your husband is getting the help he needs. They should be able to send you in the right direction.
There are members here who can give you first hand advice, and commiserate with , but sometimes you really need the face-to-face contact with other adults who know exactly what you are feeling.
I'm glad you found us, but I'm sorry that the reason is an unhappy one.

So sorry for your situation
It is important to find a group with people going through similiar situations as yourself. And the above posts should give you some hope for finding the support you need.

I also extend the offer to talk if you'd like. My e-mail address is in my profile (just take out the "no spam" portion of it) plus I am on Yahoo messenger in the evenings usually and that ID is also on my profile.

You have come to a great place to find supportive people!

Hi and welcome to AnswerPool, you will find many new friends here and will see that we frequently vent to each other. As LVLF said groups like AL-Anon are geared toward helping the family of addicts. Have you thought about therapy for just yourself, it may be a bug help to have someone you can talk to. I also want to extend the welcome to use my e-mail anytime you feel like it.

Well the Addicts and Alcoholics have their 12 step program, the loved ones of addicts/alcoholics have their click too, it's called alanon:

http://www.al-anon.org/ is a good place to get started.

What you need is to meet with people who have been and are where you are at. People who are the victims of another's addiction and the baggage that comes with it.

There is the phone number (toll free)

888 4AL-ANON which you can call to find meeting places in your area.

I would suggest that you go with an open mind and then get phone numbers of other members, use those numbers. When you feel slightly down it is best to call one of those numbers and get a hold of a person who can come over or who you can meet than to post a question here and wait for a long while for a reply.

Through Al-Anon you will also be able to find therapists for yourself - there are therapists who specialize with people who are dealing with another's addictions.

Indeed, I think you will find everything you need at that number.

Good luck and God bless.

David

Welcome to the pool. you will find you have several friends here if you chose to talk to us. I wish you the best and trust me we have all been there before.

Thank you everyone, I found it very uplifting that complete strangers are willing to help out.
I do, need someone to talk to, and I'm going to make that step today, aside from family and marriage counselling I need a one on one, plus a group, oddly enough its reassurring to know others are going threw what I am ... also very sad ... life just shouldnt be this way.
Again, thanks for all your kind words

You are most welcome. Let us know how it goes...okay?

Welcome to AnswerPool, Kissten. I can't say anything that the others haven't already said, but know that we are a family here and you are welcome here. Talk anytime you need to. Most of us have our email addresses in our profiles...but just talking on the boards here can be a great help.

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Again, Welcome Kissten!

I won't pretend to know what you're going through. But I am available if you want another person to talk to. (Profile...)
And yes - you've come to the right place! The Pool has more caring people than I can count!
And we all vent now and then! Feel free!

I am new to the pool as you can see but am old to a lot of world issues. As a recovering addict (19 years)with destroyed relationships behind me, I can say this. The most important people in your life right now are you and your kids. You can not help your husband until he has made a total selfish commitment to help him self. You do need others in your life because in dysfuntional relationships the one that is ill makes you that way too. I would love to help if I can as a friend and a substance abuse counselor (amoung other things) my email is available if you want.

JRF, you probably failed to notice the date of the last posting before yours. The thread has been idle for 28 months. It is entirely possible that the participants have all left.

Hi jrf. Welcome to Answerpool!

Although this is an old thread, someone may run across this another time. We do have a search feature which allows us to search for a specific topic. There are many other forum topics which are much more recent that you would better be able to contribute in. Feel free to check out the site and jump right in. The water is warm.