Yes, these terms can mean different things, depending on desires and comfort.
1st base is usually holding hands and kissing, and 'home run' is going all the way/having sex. The bases in between are too x-rated to describe on this site, but just use your imagination as to the things to do that leads up to the home run.
Posts: 6751 | Location: Land of Lincoln, USA | Registered: 07-04-02
I don’t know that these should really be referred to as “relationship” terms. I relationship involved communication, trust, respect, understanding... Not just petting and groping. The baseball terms are used generally by people inexperienced in sex but who want to brag about their conquests anyway. It is a crass way to refer to your experience with your partner and you shouldn’t be striving only to reach the next “base” but to improve your entire relationship based on many other grounds, not only sexual.
That said, first base is kissing. Second base is touching the top half. Third base is touching the bottom half. A home run is actual intercourse.
Honi, I don’t think second and third base are particularly x-rated, considering what a home run is. I hope I didn’t cross the line with my post, though...
Posts: 4654 | Location: Rochester, NY, USA | Registered: 06-03-02
Honi, I don’t think second and third base are particularly x-rated, considering what a home run is.
Second and third base are not x-rated if you just use the word 'touch' the top and bottom half. I was thinking of the description of the things that you do to those parts that's x-rated. I could really describe it in x-rated terms. Thanks to you tho, you knew how to keep it decent.
Posts: 6751 | Location: Land of Lincoln, USA | Registered: 07-04-02
Well with all that being said, I'm 21 and have been with my girl friend for 7 years that is also 21 and have only reached up to 3rd base. I'm way past 1st and 2nd but I just started getting to 3rd last summer. Being with her 7 years, shouldn't I be past the home run stage by now?
Posts: 262 | Location: Cleveland,OH USA | Registered: 06-04-02
There's no standard to when you reach a base. Taking your time's fine. But if anything, you should let her decide when to hit the home run. Do you know if she wants to wait until marraige or something? Although you can always bring it up and see what happens.
Posts: 6549 | Location: Grayson, Georgia, USA | Registered: 06-03-02
I mean that when one is ready for that degree of intimacy, one is mature enough NOT to consult a panel of strangers on a public forum for their approval. Sexual intercourse is not appropriate for the immature - regardless of chronological age. IMHO.
Remember that we have held Doug's hand through lo! these many attempts of his to deal with the problems and responsibilities of a consensual relationship between adults. We sort of wish he'd just get on with it or seek another partner or forget about sex for a year or so.
Posts: 6788 | Location: British Columbia, Canada | Registered: 06-11-02
Justin, if you have been reading Doug's posts the last few years, I don't see how you can disagree with Frank. It is my opinion, too, that Doug is not ready for complete intimacy, and Doug himself ha said (or implied) that his girlfriend is not as mature as he is. In any case, however, the decision is not only his. {i]She[/i] is the person he needs to ask, and, if she isn't ready, then perhaps, as Babs suggests, it is time for Doug to move on.
Posts: 17655 | Location: Lincoln Place, Granite City, IL, USA | Registered: 06-03-02
Dorian, you hit it right on the head. "Doug himself ha said (or implied) that his girlfriend is not as mature as he is. In any case, however, the decision is not only his. {i]She[/i] is the person he needs to ask, and, if she isn't ready, then perhaps, as Babs suggests, it is time for Doug to move on."
Yea she is not mature as I am. Her mind and body has like 2 diffrent age personalities. Her mind being the young immature one that puts up a red flag every time I bring up sex. She says "I'm not ready." which is the famous sentance guys don't want to hear, not to be rude or anyhting. I want to do it b/c she is my first love nothing worng with that right? But 7 years and still nothing? That is not a good sign. My clock on her is nering the end, I just may just have to dig deep and think about if I want to wait for her or not.
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Posts: 262 | Location: Cleveland,OH USA | Registered: 06-04-02
Originally posted by DorianGreyed: Justin, if you have been reading Doug's posts the last few years, I don't see how you can disagree with Frank. It is my opinion, too, that Doug is not ready for complete intimacy, and Doug himself ha said (or implied) that his girlfriend is not as mature as he is. In any case, however, the decision is not only his. {i]She[/i] is the person he needs to ask, and, if she isn't ready, then perhaps, as Babs suggests, it is time for Doug to move on.
Well that makes sense. Mainly, I just didn't catch on to what Frank was saying.
Posts: 6549 | Location: Grayson, Georgia, USA | Registered: 06-03-02
There is no standard timetable for hitting these bases. It depends on the strength of the relationship and the level of readiness of the individuals involved. As I said, a “relationship” is not about what bases you reach and when.
You have been with your girlfriend for seven years, since you were approximately 14. Some people might be ready for sex in that amount of time, some may not. You should not be asking us these questions, you should be asking your girlfriend.
If you are ready for sex and she is not, you must be patient until she is ready. If you feel that you must have sex right this moment, then you may be looking for the wrong thing in your relationship and may be in the wrong relationship.
I have to agree with the other responses. Judging from the questions you have asked before and your apparent attitude toward sex and opinion toward your girlfriend, I don’t think you are ready for that degree of intimacy.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex, and certainly nothing wrong with wanting to have sex with your first love. However, you don’t get to have sex just because you want it. You have to be ready for it, and your partner has to be ready for it. If you are not willing to wait for her to be ready, if you have a “clock ticking” on her, I think that says a lot about your whole relationship.
There is nothing immature in being cautious about or unwilling to have sex. Many people are inexperienced and sheltered when it comes to sex, that is true, and remain that way for much of their lives. Keep in mind, however, that your girlfriend may not be immature so much as she is trying to be responsible and wary -and frankly, I don’t blame her.
Please, respect your girlfriends’ wishes. She has been with you for a long time, obviously she sees some potential in this relationship. But if you cannot respect her, then perhaps you need to tell her so.
Posts: 4654 | Location: Rochester, NY, USA | Registered: 06-03-02
I'll explain what the bases mean Doug, but using apropriate terms.
1st Base - hugging and kissing,some light making out.
2nd Base - kissing,making out some light over the shirt fondling,sometimes under the shirt, but staying up top around the breast area.
3rd Base - making out, kissing using tongue, going under the shirt and feeling the breasts
Home Run - that is when you have sexual intercourse.
*I don't promote any of these things Doug, you should move slow, and don't make her do things she doesn't want to do. No really mean No. I'm serious. You don't need to impress your friends or anybody else. Everybody moves at their own pace. Be sensible, listen to what Elexina says. You have all your life to experience these things bud. Believe me, the "home run" is best experienced with someone you truly love. It's better that way. Don't force her into anything, know what I mean?
A relationship is more than physical intimacy, it's a mental connection. If you're not mentally connected with her, then it's meaningless. You'll feel awful and weird at the end.
Realize the consequences as well. Pregnancy is a strong factor. You are going places in life and so is she. Do you want 2 minutes of fun to turn into 18 years of pain? You have a future Doug, you could be something, and so could she. Think long and hard before you do anything. I've been there and done that.
Think buddy.....
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Posts: 2713 | Location: USA | Registered: 06-07-02
*I don't promote any of these things Doug, you should move slow, and don't make her do things she doesn't want to do. No really mean No. I'm serious. You don't need to impress your friends or anybody else. Everybody moves at their own pace. Be sensible, listen to what Elexina says. You have all your life to experience these things bud. Believe me, the "home run" is best experienced with someone you truly love. It's better that way. Don't force her into anything, know what I mean?
A relationship is more than physical intimacy, it's a mental connection. If you're not mentally connected with her, then it's meaningless. You'll feel awful and weird at the end.
Realize the consequences as well. Pregnancy is a strong factor. You are going places in life and so is she. Do you want 2 minutes of fun to turn into 18 years of pain? You have a future Doug, you could be something, and so could she. Think long and hard before you do anything. I've been there and done that.
Think buddy.....
Ron Darlin', I think this is possibly the best post I have ever seen you make. Outstanding advice, guy to guy
Thank you all for keeping this somewhat sensitive thread within the bounds of Answerpool's Rules; we do not have a category that addresses sexual matters, but you have addressed a specific question in good taste; I have edited certain phrases, but no reflection whatsoever on the poster, just to keep it within the bounds of our rules.
Thanks again for keeping Answerpool an informative site, yet oriented to members and visitors of all ages.
Posts: 3671 | Location: Ridgewood, N.J. USA | Registered: 05-30-03
just glad to help. sex is not a matter to be taken lightly. I just want to make sure whoever needs advice gets the good end of the stick. I just feel if someone has a question it should be answered to the best of everyones knowledge, even if it is about a deep matter like sex. After all what better alternative to turn to than the brilliant minds at AnswerPool, when nobody else is brave enough to answer their questions. And thank you Gizmo for that compliment!
Posts: 2713 | Location: USA | Registered: 06-07-02
I hope I didn’t cross the line with my post, though...
that is also 21 and have only reached up to 3rd base. 
I'm way past 1st and 2nd but I just started getting to 3rd last summer. Being with her 7 years, shouldn't I be past the home run stage by now? 
