How long should you wait to call someone, after he/she gives you their phone number. I think women should wait about a week, so it doesn't seem like they're easy.
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07-07-03, 06:08 PM
dogspit
I guess it depends on just how well you hit it off with the person. I can see waiting that long if you were not particularly impressed, but if you really liked them I would not wait more then
three days to call.

07-07-03, 06:15 PM
Sherasi
I've never had the occassion to date... so I never got any phone numbers and had to play "strategically"! Eek

07-07-03, 06:39 PM
Lydia
Honilov - if you plan to call and he gave you his number - then by all means, just call whenever you want to. I'm not a big fan of calling guys myself, so I'm not one to say...
07-07-03, 06:52 PM
kittypal
I have never called a guy either, but if he gave it to you, he must like you, why play games...by all means if you like him, call him!!!! Smile

07-07-03, 07:05 PM
Sailracer
Honi, he should have asked for YOUR number, but that's another issue. If you like him and it seemed right, call and say "sorry, I'm sure I gave you my number, but perhaps you lost it; if you get voice mail, leave your number if you want, and see if he calls. If you get him live, you will be able to gauge his reaction. Good luck! (take this advice for what its worth, I've been out of this scene for a long time, and I suspect the culture and rules have changed.)

07-07-03, 07:40 PM
MrsS
I always used (and advised my guy friends to use) a three day rule when in doubt...get the number on Saturday, call Tuesday unless you talked about calling sooner when you got the number...sooner(unless you already said you would) somehow feels too eager,too much longer implies a lack of interest, and gives the other person too much time to forget how much fun they had talking to you.

07-07-03, 07:50 PM
EBknowsBUBBA
No longer than a couple of days. After that he will forget about you and move on.

07-07-03, 08:57 PM
Katanya2000
Oh please! Why play games? If you like him, call him the next day!! All these gender rules are silly and grossly dishonest.

If the boy thinks your easy because you wanted to talk to him and called him the next day then he's stupid and not worth dating anyway!

What a quick and efficent way to find out if a man (or woman) isn't shallow, petty, and is actually worth the effort that goes into a real relationship! Call soon and actually NOT feign or play coy or pretend to feel or be anything other than you actually are.

Once we get past these absurd games we might actually discover how refreshing honesty and openess really are!

07-07-03, 10:23 PM
Gin
Katanya2000...Right on, I like your answer! Wink

07-08-03, 11:41 AM
Oceangurl
I agree with Kat, the "appropriate time to wait" game is stupid. Why start a potential relationship based on a stupid game?

Also, someone said he should have asked for your number? Back in my single days, I would never give my number to a guy who asked. Instead, I asked him to give me his number. with all the strange ways people can track down your address through your phone number these days, I never felt safe giving my home phone number to a strange guy.

If I ever did give my number, I gave them my cell phone number because it was registered to me through my job and could not be tracked back to my home address.

Can't be too careful these days!

07-08-03, 11:48 AM
SeattleRon
2 days. after that they will forget who you are. you gotta call while you are at least fresh in their minds.

07-08-03, 04:24 PM
honilov
Ron, I don't think they'll forget in 2 days. It's best to make them wonder a little bit...it'll make them a little more determined. Wink Oh course, it'll be different if it's just someone that wants to hit 'n' run, instead of someone that's for real. Wink

07-09-03, 10:57 AM
Elexina
For once, I would have to agree with SeattleRon. I wouldn't recommend calling immediately, might seem desperate, but wait too long and he'll either be pissed you didn't call sooner or won't remember.

07-09-03, 12:32 PM
kittypal
I don't like the "rules " either, but it does seem that the less intrested you are in a guy, the more they want you!!! Confused

07-09-03, 03:12 PM
Oceangurl
I know what you mean Kitty. I have heard (even guys say) that men want what they can't have. Make it too easy and they're not interested. I once heard a psychologist explain on a talk-show that it's the "innate desire to hunt." He basically said that if it's too easy, the hunt is no fun.

This totally annoys me! This is that "game stuff" that I find incredibly irritating! I have to admit though, when I first met my fiance, I was VERY busy with my job and dealing with a family crisis. I didn't have much time to pursue a relationship with him. He wound up chasing me more and more until I finally realized what a great person he was. Funny how things work themselves out.

07-09-03, 03:46 PM
kittypal
oceangurl, that is funny. I had these two guys calling me and e-mailing me everyday, I really, really was NOT interested and told them so, I guess they thought I was playing hard to get, it took a few months to get the message!!! Roll Eyes Smile That's why I don't get games, I mean you like someone or you don't!

07-09-03, 03:57 PM
cyberlaol
Well seeing as I have been married for 24 years now Roll Eyes--I would say that you should call the other person within 48 hours or move on-After all if there is interest, you or they will respond,if not its their loss

07-09-03, 04:40 PM
Georgia85
Not a game player either. But I am old- fashioned so would never call a man who gave me his number. But we are not talking about me now...

How do YOU feel Hon? Is this a personal or a hypothetical question. I'll answer as if you were asking for yourself.

If you have a reason to call then by all means, call. If you don't have a reason to call then I don't suggest that you do. If this person was interested in a dialogue with you then he/she should have asked for your number or both of you should have equally exchanged. But because this person gave you a number that, in itself, makes me think this person has little ambition and has thrown the ball in your court, so to speak. If he/she is serious then they will find a way to contact you.

07-09-03, 09:53 PM
honilov
Georgia, it's not about me...a friend of mine gave a guy her number, about 2 weeks ago, and he hasn't called her yet. I thought it was foolish for her to give it to him in the first place, because he didn't give her his.

07-10-03, 08:53 AM
Georgia85
How long should you wait?
OH....well he probably "lost the number" or his "dog ate it" or the classic line "washed it in the laundry"

If he hasn't called yet he probably won't....sorry to say.

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