what do guys do and what is the mood when a guy go's out for a beer with just the guys... (they are all sigle but my guy)
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11-08-02, 11:25 AM
Sandy
My husband, who works second shift (until 10:30 PM), meets "the guys" every Friday night for a few beers on his way home from work. I think it is wonderful! He get's a chance to have some "guy" talk, (what would we do without our "women" talk) and a time for some male bonding. Since I totally trust him, I think it is a very healthy thing for him.

11-08-02, 12:36 PM
cattywampus
I have spent lots of time as the only woman to be invited along when "the guys" are going out, and in my experience they mostly drink and talk about their work. This wasn't for my sake, either, as they knew I wouldn't object to what they said or how they said it, or pass it along. They may not have talked about women as they could have, but as far as I could tell, that was it. I don't know about your guy, but both my husbands were drinkers and loved to go out after work with the guys they worked with. I believe men get a lot of social satisfaction going out with the "guys" and I'm glad to hear it hasn't caused you any problem, Sandy.

Catty (just one of the guys) cool

11-09-02, 06:20 AM
SeattleRon
sorry, but whenever I leave the ladies behind it's mostly a bunch of "who's done who" type of chat. hi five's all around, come on guys, you know thats what's goin on, give me props to my dawg's homey's!!!!!
thats what guys talk about...fo real

11-09-02, 12:56 PM
crescen7

quote:Originally posted by SeattleRon:
sorry, but whenever I leave the ladies behind it's mostly a bunch of "who's done who" type of chat. hi five's all around,... thats what guys talk about...fo real


True.

11-09-02, 08:51 PM
MrSensitive
Here's the roster of topics at my last "night out with the guys"....

work
talents
cars
girls (decent & horrible)
family
tools
music
movies
daring conquests
injuries
food
investments
and probably a few other things I don't remember (tequila-amnesia).

So yes, we do talk about girls, but those of us who are diverse in our minds and lives have a whole lot more to talk about than just boobs and bangin'.

Mr(sir-talx-a-lot)Sensitive

11-11-02, 05:55 AM
Kendor
All the single guys rag on the 'partnered' ones about how whipped the 'partnered' ones are.

11-11-02, 11:03 AM
MrSensitive
Geez, if that's all you guys talk about, I'd be bored to death! In such a scenario, I'd rather stay home with the little woman! At least HER conversations would be more interesting and intellectually stimulating!

Mr(beer with the MEN)Sensitive

11-11-02, 12:59 PM
Sandy
Mr Sensitive, I think you are separating the MEN from the BOYS !!!

11-12-02, 11:18 AM
Kendor
Acutally, I've never really had a 'beer with the guys'. The whole concept seems rather juvenile. My response was born from what I've heard others talk about.

Stacy, don't worry about your guy. Let him have his fun. True love is enhanced by absence and trust. And if it's not true love, it aint worth havin'.

Ken(Secure enough to drink alone)dor

11-13-02, 10:10 AM
Z281980
Stacy I agree with Kendor. For 90% of guys, I would say it's harmless drunkiness talk. I'm with Catty on this one. I work for a Construction Co so when we go for beer, it's all men and then me. I've always been one of the guys for the most part and they sure as hell don't hold anything back for me !
Harmless - Don't spend any more time worrying about it.
If you were closer, I'd tell you to join us and see for yourself but..... wink

11-13-02, 08:42 PM
Ruthann
the majority of my friends are male--

Now that I am married and have children I do not go out like I did. However, I spent many nights in the pool hall with a bunch of guys and a lot of beer. Women were often the topic of conversation, but just as often they actually talked about things such as those things mentioned by Mr. Sensitive.

11-21-02, 08:12 AM
Stacy
thankyou for all your good points... I dont know if I feel comfortable yet... he often comes home with storys about the guys at work, the guy that is marred talk about how he told his wife he had to stay late at work, but met with someone. the single guys are picking out what girl they want to take home next. they are allways looking to hook up when they go out. these guys are very sexuly carged at work. what would they be like wiht some beer in them? and this is just contract work, he will only be there for a short time. they are not like life friends.... there are a lot of nagetive factors to me..... why is it ok to send him out with guys tryin to hook up, when he has me at home?

11-21-02, 12:42 PM
Elexina
My husband goes out a lot after work and all I ask is that he gives me an ETA at home, so I know when to start worrying. I don't know what all goes on when they hang out but I imagine there is a lot of "wow! look at the tits on that one!" and "man, you are so gay" and "more nachos, please" etc etc etc.
I don't really care what goes on because I trust my husband. The guys he hangs around with, however stupid or immature or irresponsible or immoral, do not change who he is and how he acts in certain situations. If I could not trust him, I would not be with him.
I think that you need to decide if you trust your partner. It doesn't matter what they do or what they talk about or how many beers they have (unless they're driving! -My husband also knows that where ever he is, whatever he's doing, however late it may be, if he is too wasted to drive he can call me and I will go pick him up. Another trust aspect there) or if the other guys are trying to set him up with some floozy, because if you trust your partner, and know him, it will be okay. If he's the kind of guy who would let his friends set him up when he is already in a relationship, then he's probably not the right kind of guy for you.

12-06-02, 12:03 PM
AndrBarron
Your reply was great.

12-06-02, 02:10 PM
DarkPrinces
Women
Cars
Sports

What else would we talk about?

12-09-02, 06:25 AM
Elexina

quote:Originally posted by AndrBarron: Your reply was great.

Thank you.

01-20-03, 11:47 PM
jejelale
For about the first 10 years of my marriage, my husband had his night out with the guys while I stayed home with the kids.It really used to bother me. Once he reached his late 20's he stopped.Today, I would give my left eye to have him go out with the boy's so I could have the house to myself!!He was the only married guy at the time and still is.

02-19-03, 03:38 AM
Wildflower63
If your husband ends up thinking this is so much fun that he just can't give it up, he will end up cheating on you. Might as well expect it.

Sorry but I had a baby to take care of that got up very early. I can't take care of him and party all night. He found women that would do what I wouldn't. Always flings. He never wanted me to find out about anything like that.

Just advice from someone that has been there too long.

02-21-03, 09:28 PM
soaringhorse
Men are going to do what they want to do, if you think, oh my husband doesn't do that, maybe he does and just doesn't tell you. The thing is there has to be trust, and also a good relationship. I think there needs to be a limit also. I mean, sure, a few nights out the week, maybe, but not every night, jeez, that's like a really bad habit to start. And besides us women like to see your faces every once in awhile, but it's no fun when they're drunken faces and we're not. There comes a time when you have to decide "Is this just a way to relieve stress?" or "Does this person show signs of alcoholism?"

02-22-03, 02:43 AM
Wildflower63
As far as reliving stress and hanging out in the bar with buddies go, alcholism will creep in slowly. I would put my foot on more than one night a week of it. It's a matter of priorities.

08-17-03, 03:12 PM
grumpybear
Wanna hear a funny story? The last time that my husband went out to have a few drinks with the boys, he got soo drunk that he had to sit in the parking lot for a few hours! Plus I was told that he was hitting on two reaallllyy ugly lesbian ladies! This was before we were married though.. I pick on him about that alot!!

08-17-03, 03:57 PM
Wildflower63
I am not allowed to have beer with the boys. My husband gets too bent out of shape with me. I'm not a great drinker. No telling what subject matter I might pop out with. I really blew it when the guys were seeing who had the biggest beer gut and tits. One guy is in disagreement with the other and checks out size by feeling the other guys tit. He he is holding up his shirt and letting him.

Oh, way too funny! That was serious joking material to me. I had two guys dropping their pants to show some more skin. I think it's all a big joke. I don't know when to shut up, just add liquor. I thought it was pretty funny. My husband didn't. Neither did a jealous girlfriend that her boyfriend was dropping his pants at my request.

So, I get into too much trouble to go out with the guys. Add liquor and I find fun with about anything. I think that I'm joking around. My husband says guys aren't taking it that way and I am a complete embarassment to him. Well, his friends like me. They think I'm fun.

There was a problem getting home after our fight. Neither of us were sober enough to drive legally. The jealous girlfriend that got mad at me took my husband home. I stayed until I felt ok to drive legally. That wasn't fun.

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