What was the first American college
fraternity for women ? What school
did it first start at and who was
its very first member ?

Theta, a branch of Kappa Alpha Theta, was founded at Asbury University, Indiana in 1870, by Bettie Locke Hamilton.

Correct.

Thanks for the answer Tex !

Oops!

Pi Beta Phi
Founded: April 28, 1867 at Monmouth College
Mission Statement: The Mission of Pi Beta Phi Fraternity for Women is to promote friendship, develop women of intellect and integrity, cultivate leadership potential and enrich lives through community service.
Source: Stanford.edu

The Pies have it.

An interesting piece of info. This one seems to be one of those semantic trivia conundrums... they call it the "... first national secret society for women ...", which is an interesting choice of words. Anyhow, excellent research, though it would still seem that the first official sorority may well have been Theta.

Thanks for posting the cool link and the update. I might need to find a more accurate wording to my question should I use it again.