I have to be blunt because this is really upsetting me. I haven't had sex with my girlfriend in over a month. I would never cheat on her, the thought of sex with another person disgusts me. But whenever we have the chance and don't take it, the last two days I've ended up very upset and crying when she says no. It's very frustrating, not just because of the physical aspect, but because I feel much more close to her when we make love.

Is something wrong with me?
Am I overreacting for a reason beyond my control, or do I just suck?

And yes, I've told her all of this.

I'm puzzled. Your profile says you're male. Only women can be nymphomaniacs. In males the corresponding condition is satyriasis.

And whether you're a woman who thinks of herself as a man, or a man who's got his terminology mixed up, no indeed, you are not disordered.

She may be depressed. Or resentfully angry. That can kill libido. Try not to over-react until she starts talking to you. Be patient.

If she only says no on occasion I wouldn't say she is resentful or angry, she might just not be in the mood...Try not to get angry or upset when she does say no, all that will do IS cause resentment and stress.

I don't think you are sex obsesses, most guys are harder to turn off than women.

Bab, I didn't know men couldn't be nymphomaniacs, I thought the term was for both sexes....See what you learn here!

My question relates more to the ages of the 2 people involved.......

Gold Girl, did you accidentally post to the wrong question? What question of yours do you refer to? Or are you... Never mind.

Kittypal, guys can be maniacs over nymphos, but not nymphomaniacs.

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Originally posted by griffinox:
I have to be blunt because this is really upsetting me. I haven't had sex with my girlfriend in over a month. I would never cheat on her, the thought of sex with another person disgusts me. But whenever we have the chance and don't take it, the last two days I've ended up very upset and crying when she says no. It's very frustrating, not just because of the physical aspect, but because I feel much more close to her when we make love.

Is something wrong with me?
Am I overreacting for a reason beyond my control, or do I just suck?

And yes, I've told her all of this.

Hi.
I do have the same problem. But in my relation I am th girl. Me and my bf are together for 4 years now and it feels its not changing. I just n eed more sex. This can be a huge problem, not just because of the phisicle part but because in time i lost interest in him, and dont feel close ( we are together every day, but i see him as a gf)
dont know the right thing to do!!!!!!

Hi, and welcome to AnswerPool, Kala.
I'm probably one of the least qualified people to answer your question, and hopefully someone with more knowledge will come along and give you some good advice.
However, I will say, incompatable sex drives are not an uncommon problem in relationships. Talk to your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, and listen to what he has to say. It sounds to me that there is more going on here than just you wanting more sex, if you are starting to see him only as a good friend. Is the problem that you want a intimate relationship outside the one you have with him?
One party can feel that sex isn't a big deal in a relationship, but to the person that wants it, and isn't getting what they need, then it can become a major issue. I think it might be worth considering going to see a psychosexual counsellor together.

Btw, I've heard some of the nicest people come from Macedonia, and you'll find you're in good company at AP.

thank diamont
I talked to him over and over again about this. He want me to go to a counsellor but does not even think about this being OUR problem. And NO. I dont want a new relationship outside the one i have. Its just that this has no home. We are incompatible as partners. So, I will try to just be a friend.
P.S. Thank u for the compliment. I can see I am in a great company.

Kala, my Dedo was born near Охридско Езеро, and I think at least one of my cousins lives in Skopje. I often find some way to mention Macedonia in posts, sometimes jokingly. (But no one can doubt how I feel towards the country of my ancestors.)

Four Pages of Mentions of Macedonia in AnswerPool

Only four, DG?


Kala,
If he won't go to a counsellor, and you aren't happy with the situation, then think about going by yourself. It'll help you make some decisions, or at least work towards them. My sense of the situation, is that you aren't happy with just being a friend, or you wouldn't be asking us for help here. Yes, it is a joint problem, but if he isn't willing to see it that way, then go get some professional help for yourself.