clarebear, a lot of what you said is basically what I've been thinking. I've been skeptical from the start. But Sally believes so genuinely in Jim that it makes it difficult to be skeptical. What I mean by that is that it would be very hard for anyone, even her parents, to get her some help. She is absolutely convinced, as far as I know. Also, her close friend (we'll call her Lucy) who she has confided in is just as convinced and also refuses to believe that Sally has MPD or anything like that. It makes it two against one for me, even though I haven't voiced my concerns really, and although those are negligible odds it is still two very stubborn people against skeptical me. I really want Sally to get some help, even though she's scared of that sort of thing. Does anyone have any suggestions on ways to voice my concerns that wouldn't come off as close-minded, ignorant, etc.? (Because I would very much like for Lucy to stay my friend, and even if Sally isn't that close to me I don't want to offend her either)

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Originally posted by tsaeb:
Wildflower63 brings to my mind the word "trust.".....Some may not care what others think. Some may care too much what others think. Some choose to be actors/actresses.....Generally, from time to time a self-examination...Perhaps a lot of experimentation with self-examination is in order.

Tsaeb, that was excellent insight.

I think all should care more about what they think than what another may think of them. The fact is, the second you actually figure yourself out, you do have to deal with many other people in your life.

Internet people: I don't even know you! All that I do know is who you say you are, which may not be fact.

Real friends: These are people I can be open with, only to an extent. I have beliefs that may offend them. I shut up, somewhat. It depends on who I am talking to, how honest I can be.

Family: I can't even say a bad word in front of them. I know they love me. They may not if too embarrassing to the family. I take no chances there.

Kids: I'm expected to show a 'good example'. I don't know why. My kids are going to deal with the same problems.

Work: This is the place that I present myself with arrogance of perfection. This isn't me! It's a job I need.

I do know the fact that I present multiple personalities. They often do have different names. I gave five examples for why my behavior and personality has to change with each individual. That does not make me crazy, just honest about it all.

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I think all should care more about what they think than what another may think of them.

I'm not sure what you mean here, WF. Your statement seems to suggest; one should care more about what one believes, than what other people think of you. If so, then that sounds like a good idea.

However, don't confuse who you are, with how much you choose to reveal about yourself to others.

It's not necessary to present multiple personalities for different situations. Just be yourself, and in any given situation, you can decide how much you want others to know about you, and your views on life.

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Work: This is the place that I present myself with arrogance of perfection.

Anyone who assumes they are perfect, must surely be arrogant.

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Originally posted by dance girl:
I think all should care more about what they think than what another may think of them.

I'm not sure what you mean here, WF.

Fair question....I know how I got there, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me." and acted upon it. It was far from easy. I remember the exact day and why. It changed my life.

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Originally posted by dance girl:
However, don't confuse who It's not necessary to present multiple personalities for different situations. Just be yourself, and in any given situation.

I can't 'be myself'. Be thankful you don't have to play this game of expectation of others. It's far from fun.

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Originally posted by dance girl: Anyone who assumes they are perfect, must surely be arrogant.

It's far from arrogance. I will get fired if not 'perfect'.