I had some serious "crushes".. bouts of lovesickness as it were when I was a teen. I had a period of delusional love in my early 20's. When I met Sagus it was like I met a good friend right away and the feelings I had were loving support, comfort and safety.
My current relationship with Sagus is not based on passion but on mutual interests in a stable supportive relationship for us and our boys (who, with their disabilities really need as much continuity as possible in their family life and involvement in the society around them.
My passion for my sons goes beyond lovesickness. I would die for them in a heart beat if it would mean their well-being and long timer happiness and safety. (I am of course NOT inclined to take this path unless no alternatives are available)
The feelings I had for Sagus in the early part of our relationship was supportive friendship rather than lust and vast sexual urges. He is a man I greatly respect as a good provider, a sense of honor that I don't always equal to factly.
I feel I am a bit more heartless and less regimented in this whole process of relationships and trust.
I trust my life with Sagus no matter what cost and he can depend on the same support from me and for our sons.
Having disabled children, I with be the chimera known for vicious defensive care of her young and protection against would-be predadors.
Our children are our future and we need to be leading examples of how a good life can include all people who are compassionate and have qualities that can be used for the over-all good for all.
Utopia in a nonexistant state and should be anyway. Those who stagnate die, those who diversify, learn new skills take information and use it productively no matter who presented the ideas or information are the best at using and dispersing all the data and knowledge that can be garners from all persons.
Lovelsicknss is hormonal, and much of the quickie marriages and as fast divorces occur because the true lack of communication about the ideals and values each could bring to the negotiating table have failed or missed the mark (or ignored).
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1) What are the symptoms of lovesickness, and are they different for males and females? Excitement Breathlessness Inability to concentrate Euphoria Optimism Extreme emotionality Fearlessness
2) How does oneself deal with lovesickness, and is there a gender difference? I think lovesickness is different for male and female. Generally speaking, women tend to let emotional passion bridge to physical passion, and I think men start with physical passion and let it bridge to emotional passion. True love goes beyond the immediate circumstances, and will last for a long time. The key to love is that both people commit, choosing to place affection on one another. If this is not done the relationship is doomed. “Love is not self-seeking.”
I wouldn’t be safe in the dating world today, because I can’t tell the difference between love and lust. I am passionate about most things, and wear my heart on my sleeve. Even though I’ve been around the block, I still tend to be quite naïve about matters of the heart and about relationships.
3) How does one deal with another's lovesickness, and is there a gender difference? It depends on what you want. The most important thing of all is not to rush in ‘where angels fear to tread’. Is it love or lust? Is this person someone whom you might share deep feelings? Do they want the same type of relationship? If it’s you in love with someone, don’t overwhelm the other with your passion or your ‘togetherness’. If it’s them in love with you, make sure to always state your intentions. The difference between the partners is who feels more and why, not a gender difference.
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