I swear, I always want to cry about everything. Ok, not everything, but I don't get mad easily. Like I told my boyfriend, I don't really ever get mad , I get my feelings hurt. I guess that's how I take out my anger?? But I HATE being like that. I tear up about EVERYTHING! Even like, when I get hurt in softball, I take pain REALLY well, even if it doesn't really hurt and someone comes up and asks if I'm ok, I tear up.. It's like my alternative to everything..HELP!

Some people are just more emotional than others. It doesn't have to be a bad thing but I know it can be bothersome when emotions get the best of you when you are out in a public situation. You just learn to deal with them and keep them inside until you can let them out in private.

But if it seems out of control to you then maybe you could see a doctor and have your hormone levels tested. Hormones can wreck havoc with a female's emotions!

I agree with Georgia... it sounds like you should see a doctor and have your hormones checked out.

I agree with GA too. Many people are emotional, but if everything makes you emotional, you may be suffering from some sort of imbalance.

Sweet, some people are just really sensitive. I can totally relate with what you are going through. I outgrew it, later in life, but when I was a child all the way up in my 20's, I could be just fine, then a TV commercial or a 'saying' in the paper would make me well up. What was the worst thing was at funerals and weddings. I could hardly know the people, but as soon as someone else cries, or if I hear them crying, I'm a goner (still am at funerals).
When I was a teenager, I was so ultra sensitive. I could be a little sad about something, but if one of my parents said, 'are you okay?' or something like that, I would start bawling like crazy. Even the 'pain' thing that you were talking about. I can take a lot of pain, but if someone is there with me, and they start getting mushy at all about it, look out, the river runs
I still do it sometimes, but I mostly grew out of it. Lots of it is hormones and it could be that you are just a very sensitive person.

As Puppy said, teenagers do have massive hormonal changes.. I was extremely emotional also, and it did settle down for me. I sincerely doubt there is anything wrong either physically or psychologically with you.

You just need to develop some coping mechanisms to handle your emotional responses.

Here is a website that can help you develop techniques to managing your emotions.

Managing Emotions

Believe me, this is a VERY common problem.

Thanks for the link Sher. This can be very helpful for all of us!

I was like that as well as a teen and often get that way around that time of the month. One little trick I use when I feel that I'm being overwhelmed by an irrational amount of emotion is to interrupt the flow and distract myself.

Like, if I feel I'm going to sob broken heartedly over a hallmark commercial I force thoughts of sponge bob in my brain and then think of an upbeat song. It breaks the intensity of the moment and keeps me from "losing it"

It takes practice, but it helps.

OMG he's everywhere I turn Sponge Bob must be eliminated!!

wha???? Where is Sponge Bob??????

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Originally posted by SweetnSour41:
I swear, I always want to cry about everything. Ok, not everything, but I don't get mad easily. Like I told my boyfriend, I don't really ever get mad , I get my feelings hurt. I guess that's how I take out my anger?? But I HATE being like that. I tear up about EVERYTHING! Even like, when I get hurt in softball, I take pain REALLY well, even if it doesn't really hurt and someone comes up and asks if I'm ok, I tear up.. It's like my alternative to everything..HELP!

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Why?

Actually that is more than just one question:

Why do you feel you are overly-emotional?

Why do you think that this is a problem?

Why do you cry about everything - if you actually do?

Seriously, the ability to cry is one I envy in people. I rarely cry, the last time was several years ago, and when I do cry, I do so in the shower, or outside in the rain so no one can tell.

Not that I am stoic by nature, it is because I was heavily programmed that being a man meant not showing those 'negative' emotions.

The Ability to cry is most human, and is not just related to just the 'painful' emotions of sorrow, grief, anger, embarrassment, but also happens out of happiness, love, joy, relief.

I note in your profile that you were born in 1984 - that means you are 19 years old.

Hh, well, your full grown now, have passed through puberty and should be an adult in the way you react to all things -

WRONG!

You are still developing, and will continue to do so for a couple more years. Fact is, I would suspect that these emotional bouts are on the way out and are not as frequent as they have been.

Further, I suspect that the reason why you are even questioning them at this date is because you are reaching your final maturity (into adulthood) and are understanding things a little clearer.

I prescribe two more years of life and a healthy dose of living to 'cure' you of this particular ailment. After two more years as living as an adult you will become just a tad bit more jaded and will not 'feel' the need to shed tears as much.

Don't get me wrong, you will never totally lose the need for tears, in fact the need to cry more as you get older will only be balanced by the need to laugh it all off as wisdom (the understanding that we know nothing and that the world is the way it is and there ain't a thing we can do about it) takes hold.

Cheers

David