Hey...I live with two of my best friends who are very important to me. They can be very rude people, and they will admit this straight up. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now, but it was long distance until this semester started. He's been around our apartment a lot because we like to spend time together. However, my roommates don't like him, and I feel like they never gave him a chance. He tries to be friendly to him, but I feel like they're just rude to him and it is completly uncalled for. They talked to me one time about how they felt he was around too much, and how they felt he was rude. I explained some things to them, and then had a talk with my boyfriend. He's not around quite as much anymore, and I'm spending more time with them as they asked me to. Still, they are rude to him when he does come over. It really bothers me when I hear comments they make to each other. If you have any suggestions on how I can improve this situation, I would greatly appreciate it! Thanks!

Okay, there is nothing at all you can do to make your roommates stop acting like immature jerks. The only suggestion I can give you is to move out. Find roommates that can behave themselves, and then you might be able to salvage those friendships. Otherwise, I'd really think about how little those people who call themselves your "friends" must care about you to treat your boyfriend so badly for no reason at all.

Can't you stay at your boyfriend's place?

It is hard to work these things out after the fact. Next time you move in with someone you might want to make an agreement ahead of time about what is appropriate boyfriend rights to the place. I usually agreed with my roommates that having the boyfriend over was alright but they should not be taking up residence (i.e. they should always spend more time away from the apartment than in the apartment) and that under no circumstance was boyfriend to be in the apartment when the roommate was not home. Boyfriends had to be courteous like not hogging the sofa or making a mess that they don't clean up.

You should try to talk to them and see if they can give you some terms to work with. Otherwise you will either have to make your friendships suffer or go to your boyfriend's place.

And I suggest that next time you don't move in with close friends... just my experience that it makes things more difficult than they should be.

Moving out isn't really an option now or in the future. Our living situation was fine last semester, but it has been suffering a whole lot this semester. They claim that he was rude to them by rolling his eyes or correcting them, but since they talked to me about it, I talked to him and he has stopped. Even though he has stopped, they still are rude to him. Going to his place isn't really a big option the majority of the time because he lives in the dorms. When he is in the apartment, it's not like he's in the living room taking up their space. He's only in my room. He might be at the apartment a lot, but it's not at times when we usually do roommate stuff. It's in the afternoon when one roommate isn't here and the other one is asleep. We don't bother them in anyway then. Then, they go to the gym, and my boyfriend and I usually go out to eat and I take him to his dorm room. I go pick him up late that night around 1030 or 11 which is about the time my roommates leave or one of them leaves to go to her boyfriend's apartment. So there is not a lot of time that he is here with them. Still, somehow they find a way to complain about his presense. I don't know what to do...I have enough stress with classes to have to worry about this all the time. I just don't know what to do about it...