I've been experiencing problems with my parents since i've moved home for the summer after being away at college for a year. When i was gone to college i became very independent and lived by my own set of rules. Now that i've moved home for the summer, my mom tries to control my life and constantly tell me what to do. In highschool, this wasn't too much of a problem because I was used to this and was not very independent. But since i've been on my own for nine months, it's very difficult to have some one set rules and whatnot. Often times these rules are even unreasonable. I thought we had resolved this issue one weekend when i was home during the spring b/c we had a huge arguement about it. but apparently she forgot about what we talked about. i don't like bringing it up b/c we always end up yelling a lot when i do. any suggestions on how to help resolve this issue? until things work out better at home, i'm just counting down the days until this fall when i move out again...

Well, I'd say you have three choices. Live by the rules they have established, it IS their house. Get them to change their rules. Or find another place to live during the summer. If they still see you as their baby, the first two may be difficult to accomplish.

I think that every college student returning home for the summer experiences the same thing. Their rules haven't changed...you have. Unfortunately, you won't change them. You'll have to figure out a way to deal with living in THEIR house by THEIR rules while you're there. If you find that you can't, the responsibility is yours to figure out how to make things work peacefully. I always think it's kind of funny how the child (I know, you're older, but you are still their child) thinks that the parents should change their ways because they want them to.

Perhaps you might be able to get them to bend a bit on things a little at a time. Don't expect things to change overnight and maybe you can keep the peace.

I know exactly how you feel. I experienced this every time I came back home from college -whether it was for a long weekend or for the summer. It required some adjustment to get back into their way of things.
The bottom line is, it's their house. They get to make the rules. If you're living there, you have to follow their rules. You might want to just try to roll with it until the summer is over.
If it is very difficult for you -which I can totally understand!- then you may want to pick the things that bother you the most and sit your parents down and try to calmly talk to them about it. Just try explaining to them that it is hard for you, having been on your own at school. Explain that you are growing and maturing and that you feel perhaps things should be different.
Make some notes ahead of time, try to stay calm and keep your thoughts organized. If you act in a mature manner, they are very likely to respect you for it.
Good luck!

get a job then get your own house then you live the way you want till then deal with it.
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