I have a cousin who never makes her child mind. He is a holly terror at every holiday get to gether we ever have. No one wants to see him darken there doors..any suggestions? Oh, he is now about 6 years old.
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12-08-03, 07:06 AM
Sherasi
Sammy, many families and old time villages would use "Shunning" to correct the errors of others' ways.

If this child is such a terror, then family members need to band together and say, "YOU are welcome, but until your son is behaving better, HE is not welcome.... if you can't come without him, I am sooooooo sorrryyyyyy you won't be able to make it! perhaps NEXT TIME!"

That may correct the problem in short order.

12-08-03, 09:47 AM
twinhearts
Sherasi's post may seem harsh to some but it works!

My aunt's boy was horrible. He would run through the house, start fights with other kids, back talk to adults, break things. One year my other aunt got tired of it and told her that until he could behave himself he was not welcome. She got mad and refused to come to any gathering for almost a year. Then she showed up at Thanksgiving and her boy was much better behaved. He wasn't an angel but he wasn't a holy terror either. Sometimes you have to use drastic measures.

Twinhearts

12-08-03, 10:07 AM
Fritzzs
Sherasi gets the Gold Star on this one...

You **** off the parent , but thats a heck of a lot better than ruining everone else day....

I have told customers who bring those holy terrors into my store to please leave and do not bring the kid back again...They get a little huffy, but at lease I don't have any broken crystal or what ever....

12-08-03, 10:49 AM
samantha
Thanks Sherasi that is a good one to use. My family is the old way of discipline spare the rod spoil the child. Roll Eyes

12-08-03, 12:48 PM
MrsS
I agree that Sher's solution, while drastic, is a very good one....the milder version, if the child is inflicted on you, is to inform the child "You may not speak to me like that", "You may not act that way here", "It is not okay to run around indoors this way" whenever needed and to order the child out of your presence until he can behave himself....if every adult other than his mother bars him from taking part in their activities, he MAY get a clue that it is in his own best interests to shape up.

12-08-03, 03:06 PM
Cyndiluwho_99
Mrs S...another tactic may be to tell the mother that running or whatever is not allowed in your home, and if she doesn't tell the child to stop, you will.

No mother wants someone else, even family, disciplining their child, even if they are not doing it.

Give her the chance to do it herself, and then if she doesn't.....

(I had a cousin like this too...maybe every family has one. Personally, I think momma needs to bust his little behind...and I don't really need to hear how a spanking is abuse. There is a BIG difference between a spanking and a beating.)

12-08-03, 03:30 PM
samantha
I think a whippen is a great idea too. It does get the point across.

12-08-03, 04:08 PM
Georgia85
I found nothing harsh nor drastic about Sher's suggestion. I have enforced the same many times to friend's of mine with out of control children. And you know what? They find a baby sitter and come anyway! Smile

12-08-03, 06:03 PM
honilov
Cyndi, I'm for the spanking, too. It sure made me a better kid. Spanking is not abuse, it's just that you are teaching your child discipline.

01-10-04, 10:05 PM
Earthangel_Uk
SmileI think i agree with MrsS answer to the mild approach..(if the child is inflicted on you, is to inform the child "You may not speak to me like that", "You may not act that way here", "It is not okay to run around indoors this way" whenever needed and to order the child out of your presence until he can behave himself!)

My 4 year old son, is a little terror!! Red Face Especially when his daddy comes home from work or around other people, he likes to show off and does become a nightmare! I have tried to take away his privileges, I have tried spanking but this does not work.
I dont go out to visit friends for fear he may break something. Basically hes a right handfull! Easier to stay at home.
He has been in Playschool now for 6 months, although he seems to have calmed down in some ways, he is worse in others! He is an "only" child, and i often wander if this could be the reason for his behaviour? as he hasnt any older kids to follow?
It can be very difficult.
But I dont believe that it is always the parents fault!

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