It's just too silly to be posted in a serious forum (as is anything Roog sends me ):
WORDS WOMEN USE (and the true meaning):
(1)Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument, when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2)Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3)Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with "nothing" usually end in "fine".
(4)Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Do NOT do it!
(5)Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement, often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of "nothing".)
(6)That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. "That's okay" means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7)Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add - this is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - then it is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome' ... that will bring on a 'whatever').
(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying S***W YOU!
(9)Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking, 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.
Fine? It has the opposite effect when the man says it. If he tries saying 'fine', in the hope or expectation of a lull or ending , he'll find that 'No it's NOT fine' ! is the standard reply
I do wonder why boys schools in Britain spend so much time teaching Latin or modern languages when they could teach 'Woman as a foreign language' instead.It's no use saying that Latin helps to understand a different way of thinking or that the only real way to learn a foreign language is to live permanently in a country where you hear it all the time and are forced , by circumstance, to understand it to survive. Both of those criteria would be met perfectly by 'Woman as a foreign language'
when they could teach 'Woman as a foreign language'
There is a superb book on the subject of how men and women communicate differently: You Just Don't Understand by Deborah Tannen. a professor of linguistics at Johns Hopkins. Perhaps dg has it or would like to order it for her library.
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Perhaps dg has it or would like to order it for her library.
It's probably something I should read. As for the library, I've never seen a man check out a book on communication between the sexes, or relationships in general.
10 ) "Oh, anywhere is fine with me. You choose." - This, loosely translated, means that she has some unresolved issues that will manifest themselves after the meal with her complaining about your choice and letting you know that if you REALLY knew her you would have taken her where SHE wanted to go in the first place.
Perhaps dg has it or would like to order it for her library.
It's probably something I should read. As for the library, I've never seen a man check out a book on communication between the sexes, or relationships in general.
I should add to this. Women, of course, do read such books, and probably over analyse relationships. One that I see being borrowed quite a bit is, 'He's Just Not That Into You'. Sometimes women don't want to face the hard truth about what's really going on in a relationship, but then many men are cowards, and make it easier for women to make excuses for them. This book is a real wake up call.
Men are from Mars and women from Venus. I should say that the author of that book was a student of Tannen; most of his points are "borrowings" from her research. As she points out, at the very beginning, boys and girls are taught to act and communicate differently. By the time they reach marriage, those differences are so ingrained communication in the same universe is next to impossible.
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Does anybody think that having a sister or sisters helps a boy to grow up with a better understanding of the way women feel and deal with others ? My guess is that it does, particularly if the sister is just a bit younger than he is. As the saying has it, a girl of 14 is a boy of 24.He has no chance of learning anything much if she's older than he is to start with
I managed to maintain self control and not get involved in this "no win" thread! (Actually, Amee kept pulling my internet cable off eveytime I tried to answer). Whatever.
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